"Here is a diagram of the kitchen, with each cabinet half-full of various items (glasses on shelf 1, jams/jellies on shelf 2, dishes on shelf 3, pots/pans in cabinet 1, etc). Please match the items in the dishwasher with where they should go."

Personally, I went to Craigslist in the city where I got married. There are tons of photogs on there. I had a particular style in mind (I like more candid photos) and still found someone with a great portfolio who was PERFECT.

Re: the DIY aspect

Gah, I HATE the destination wedding shaming. It's an invitation, not a summons! How dare you tell loved ones that they are welcome to come celebrate you beginning a new life with your spouse-to-be? They would have to travel and that's expensive and how presumptuous of you to even briefly entertain the thought that…

But you still called spending $20k evidence of "obscene spending habits," which is pretty judgey.

And, "sounds like you care more about the WEDDING than the MARRIAGE."

I've had this same experience at the Y.

Whenever I do a half marathon (I try to do one or two a year), I always see some heavier people out there slogging through the 13.1 miles as determined as I am, and I just want to give them a high five.

This. They think they're just so edgey and hilarious and DGAF what anyone thinks.

My apologies if this is a derailment, but I was wondering if there had been any studies on hormonal birth control use during pregnancy with regard to male homosexuality? The only thing I've seen is a higher risk of birth defects, which we happily avoided.

Right, but that's one comment, and he got shouted down immediately so...

Especially since, at least in the case of the shelter where we tried to adopt, even if the shelter is a no-kill shelter, if it's full, there's no place for other dogs to go so they're eventually put down.

HOWEVER, I have found it an easier process to get a gun, a child and / or a social security card than it is to get a dog from certain rescue groups.

My co-worker is exactly like this. I kept wondering how she always looks so elegant and glamorous in everything she wears. Then I realized she's four inches taller and twenty pounds lighter than me.

Yeah I'm not either. I see literally two comments about pubes vs no pubes, one is a guy getting taken to task for his opinion (rightfully so) and one that makes a passing comment that they're "down with pubes" before moving onto the fug factor of the undies. Am I missing something or...

I agree with this. I would have had a lot more respect if they were up front and acknowledged there really wasn't much done to the photos.

Absolutely. But for a woman who's vulnerable or insecure, speaking up feels like believing that she's attractive, which she would be stupid to believe (in her mind).

Thanks for what you're doing all over this post. I agree that she maybe has some blame... but, like, maybe 20 percent? Not enough to be debating "well enough about the doctor who clearly violated ethics, let's talk about the victim and how much blame to assign to her, instead."

Not to mention, if you're insecure or vulnerable like this woman was, just accepting that someone could be coming on to you is presumptuous. You rationalize that they must just be joking around, they can't really mean it, they aren't being sincere. Calling a creeper out feels a lot like accepting that you could be…

Obviously, this isn't the same, but: