PolitelyViolent
PolitelyViolent
PolitelyViolent

“She knows the child being with her is not best for [Kaya right now],” the insider says.

Doesn’t seem like she’s super interested in that. 

I was in a 5.5 year relationship. I ended it and metand started dating my current SO just 3 weeks later and we are going on 3 years. I don’t think there’s any right amount of time to wait.  Not waiting worked for me but it might not for someone else. 

I don’t think there should ever be a definitive answer to that; no hard number. Everyone will have their own opinion about it. And that opinion will likely change if they were ever in that situation.

Sometimes I wonder... when is too quickly to move on after a relationship? Makes me feel weird when other people comment “they moved on quickly.” Well, after a 9 year relationship in their case, is a month too long? 2 years? Half that time? Point is, outsiders never know what is happening. Either party could have

I remember the time that my mother slapped me in the face then she slapped me again because of the anger that I showed on my face.

There’s a HUGE difference between *respect* for authority and *fear* of authority.

that movement exists cause people don’t want to or are unable t0 take the time to figure out actual solutions to problems or that the solutions they provide may have even led to some of those very problems. Everyone doesn’t “turn out fine” and those who do became that way in spite of the abuse not because of it.

fear of authority....yeah that works out well for everyone.

Fuck that shit.

I agree on that. Good parents question themselves, seek guidance from a variety of sources and generally just give a crap. Terrible parents never ask themselves of what they are doing is right or wrong.

This is such a great article, Mr. Young. I was beaten as a child, with a large wooden paddle, and by the time I was four, I learned to stop crying because if I cried, the beatings lasted longer. I was determined never to strike my children.

Look, I can understand “tapping” a toddler (lightly slapping hand or butt) to get their attention when attempting to do something dangerous. I do not understand spanking. I was spanked as a child. Hell, I’m 44 & I can remember some of them. Spanking didn’t teach me shit, except, bamboo switches are evil and my mother

There’s yelling in my family too. (I witnessed two of my over-80 relatives get into a yelling fight about complete bullshit at a family gathering. It was equal parts hilarious and terrifying.) I got one-hand-swatted-on-the-clothed-butt a handful of times, and one of my parents popped my hand when I was reaching for

I got spanked all of three times as a kid, so that wasn’t the issue, but all the yelling, goddamn. I nixed the idea of kids early, I know the temper that runs on both sides of my family and I’d jump out a fucking window before subjecting a child to that.

“Because this parenting shit is day after day after day after day after day of throwing shit at the wall and seeing what maybe sticks.”

WRONG. Nope. I would not make the best parents. I would not be pretty good. For every way there is to raise a decent and functional child, there are 10,000 ways to fuck up said child. I will not be held responsible for ruining any people besides myself.

Funny part is, people like us (who acknowledge out faults) would probably make the best parents. Because we are aware of our shortcomings and actively want to ensure they don’t cause problems. That awareness is SO FUCKING RARE and often absent from parenting discussions.

I wonder if it’s less that people think they’re a better parent than you, but rather are paranoid that you think you’re a better parent than they are and overcompensate.

Yeah I feel you I don’t have the temperament to be a good parent. I don’t think I would hit a kid but I would probably yell too much.