I'd like to further note: "sexual misadventure and impropriety" is farting in bed.

Your husband sounds like an asshole, and perhaps the harmony you are working hard to keep isn't worth it.

I co-sign everything you've said with the exception of "can't". I submit that with all the brouhaha about "manly man roles" that they've been both consciously and unconsciously socialized around but can't articulate, and the institutional refusal to make workplaces more egalitarian for pretty much the same reasons,…

I never had kids, but I finally, at 45-ish, decided to stop having relationships with men, and my life has been pretty blissful ever since. I know there are great, supportive, smart men out there, but I was never able to find one who wasn't more trouble than he was worth. There were emotional issues. There was…

I thought I needed to do this. With five children I was looking at part time work so I could continue to do everything at home as well. But part time work is hard to come by and you hardly ever get to choose what *kind* of work you do if the hours are paramount.

Single mom here, with a perhaps unpopular opinion. My life is actually easier post-divorce. My ex thought he did enough of the house work and child care, but to him that meant giving the baby a bath maybe once a week, doing the dishes once in a blue moon, and running to the store when we ran out of something. I find…

I'm so sorry. I don't mean to be nosy, but your post just broke my heart- are you and your husband in some kind of counseling that could help get through to him just how selfish and awful it is that he refuses to help you so you can work? Because I want to go over there and yell "DON'T BE A SELFISH DICK TO YOUR WIFE,…

It's good to have that discussion. It's even more important to watch the way he ACTS when you have a joint responsibility - a dog, the need to care for a sick friend or parent, or to house-sit. And is he always late because of work but blows his top if you need to cancel? Talk is cheap or well-intentioned. The…

These stories are so dissimilar in intent, crime and characters that your statement essentially makes no sense.

I don't think you're tone-policing, it was just on my list of "ally no-nos. I'm curious as to what it is that you don't agree with regarding that comparison, if you're willing to elaborate.

I see no problem with that rule, correct. Men should not approach women on the street. I do not see why this is such a huge hardship.

"Stop doing that thing to me, because I don't like it", sounds like a good enough universal reason to me. What I find strange (and rather scary...), are the ones that don't seem to get this.

Completely missing the point (you're supposed to say "woman" instead of "female"), adding ableist slurs and then nailing the misogyny home by calling a woman hysterical for disagreeing with you. You're A++

"A female" could refer to any species. It's very ambiguous. You could almost say that it's dehumanizing to refer to a woman as "a female" since it lacks any human signifiers. It is routinely the wording of choice of misogynists who consider women to be unlike men - that they are akin to flora & fauna which is the only…

Let me guess, you just don't get it, and us wimmins are so complicated and have so many rules and jeez MISANDRY. /eyeroll

I think it tipped its hand when it used "female" instead of "woman". It clearly believes we are participating in a grand EvoPsych demonstration (ie. "females are programmed to be attracted to big strong cavemen therefore I don't have to respect them" BS).

Men of all statuses resort to catcalling. You're delusional if you think otherwise.

Disclaimer: I don't get catcalled, like, it's hardly ever happened in my life. I suspect it's a cultural/regional thing. And when I have been catcalled, it's usually been "Ugly bitch" as opposed to "Heyyy sexxy", etc.

So what you seem to be saying is that women don't mind when a "truly attractive male" catcalls them, because no truly attractive male ever catcalls women? In other words, women don't mind that catcalling because it is catcalling that does not happen?

I Don't Notice What You Look Like Because You Scare Me When You Catcall!