The argument that you're concerned because she'd have to drive for an hour after you told her is a weak excuse. You can drive to her house. Or telephone her. Or e-mail her. And you're right about the husband probably feeling the least pain; cheaters by nature tend to be more wrapped up in themselves and their…

I think your ex told you who it was because he wants YOU to do something about it. He's passed the burden onto you. Personally (and as someone who was cheated on, and I later found out that at least 2 of my friends knew but didn't tell me because they didn't want me to be hurt. I was LIVID!) I would tell your ex that…

He's trying to get you to quit so they don't have to pay unemployment/deal with insurance/not be assholes. Don't fall for it.

I have a pathological mean streak when it comes to cheaters (see my experience, referenced above) so I would say make sure to find a way the guy feels as bad as he deserves to feel. But that's just fun to fantasize about, this is real life and revenge/etc is generally not the best policy. So with jerks like this you…

give the ex a heads-up that you feel obligated to let the innocent spouse know what is going on. that gives your ex a chance to either tell the spouse himself or be prepared for the fallout. then - and this is a very personal decision - I would tell the spouse as others have said here, being cheated on is bad enough.…

please tell her. My husband has been cheating on me for our entire relationship and I wish I had known. She needs all the facts so that she can make an informed decision about whether she wants to stay with him or leave. IMO not telling her is cruel

Right? I don't want to be that betrayer to her. She deserves better. I also don't want to tell her and she has an hour drive home after all emotional and charged - that's not safe. I'd of course offer her a place to stay with me, but I doubt she would accept. We won't be in her city soon either. Ugh.

He almost certainly knows why, but the kind of person who pushes the boundaries of a friendship in to flirting/kissing while in an ostensibly serious relationship, they have a high correlation with the kind of person who enjoys drama. He may be very happy with his girlfriend, but after 5 years the mystery and…

If he'll fuck around with you he'll fuck around on you.

I second what the others have said about cutting him off until he figures out his shit and you aren't hurting anyone in the process. I know this comes across as harsh, but I've experienced both sides of this type of situation and generally, a guy who cheats with you is a guy who will cheat on you. And if he's…

I have to agree with Tyranno-thesaurus. This is a losing situation for you if he's in a relationship. He may be unhappy, he may be bored, he may just be looking for an ego boost because it feels good to have other women interested in him. Whatever the reasons are, it's not good for your emotional health to be involved…

I have been there and done that, and over time have become a hard-liner in this regard. He needs to break up with her and be broken up for at least 3-6 months. THEN consider re-visiting your attraction so you can start clean and there's no ping-ponging back and forth and regrets and guilt.

Krusteaz is the shit. Their waffles are to. die. for.

I don't think 5 misogynistic tweets out of 2.5 million followers really justifies making broad generalizations about his fans. I have no doubt that a subset of his male fans of any age are misogynists, but I think tarring all his young male fans with the label is reductive and insulting.

So you're sticking with the broadly offensive generalization that young males= misogynists?

So we're operating under the theory that "young males"=misogyny?

He doesn't seem disingenuous in the slightest. And he seems to treat women well in the movies that I've seen, although I haven't seen the movie in question.

I feel like you are describing this last guy I sort of had a thing with, but never slept with because his behavior was too inconsistent and it set off an alarm in me. It's weird when you feel like you connect with someone and then they show you that you just don't know them at all. I can relate to missing that person…

Thanks, I need to remember that I am not a social worker. I tend to attract broken things. My friend said my heart is so big I attract people that are broken and they try to just suck me dry. I think she's right in some respect. I work as a teacher and all the kids with problems come and talk to me, it's like they…

Thanks :)