I hear you sister / brother. I even have a couple of freckles on my lips.

There’s only one Smith, but I’ve never heard about it having a party reputation, one because it’s not a cage and two because if anything, people who want to talk trash usually accuse women going to women’s colleges of being lesbians. Some people get super defensive and weird about women choosing to do something other…

Actually, it seems like more people should be pointing out when Silicon Valley tech bros are being rude or disrespectful (which he kind of was). I’m fine with this.

That’s pretty much why I went. My dad died the summer between high school and college and I knew I couldn’t handle a party atmosphere.

Well, for me it was. We had Thursday night candle night dinners, tea every Friday at 4:00pm and once randomly during the beautiful autumn season the college president would cancel classes for ‘Mountain Day’ where you’re supposed to go out and climb a mountain or otherwise enjoy the leaves. There were definitely those…

It’s a little socially stunting but that seems like a small price to pay ;) I always thought Norway was very socially equitable—is that not so?

I went to a women’s college as well (Smith) but I’d say it was more about being in an environment that was all about us as opposed to playing second fiddle to the football team or the loudest male mouths in the room. You feel what it is like to be heard and judged on your own merits. Also, when you take boys out of…

Thank you, kind stranger!

Yeah, that would make it even harder.

That makes sense. I’m 40 and part of the ‘latch key kid’ generation. There was a huge imbalance in the way children were raised when I was growing up. Because of the rise of feminism, people were definitely thinking about how to raise a girl to be strong and independent and suited for the modern world, whereas nobody…

What about the many women who surely loved him before this one?

This is great, thank you. The piece I still don’t quite understand is that there must be guidelines around the issue. News outlets are careful with their vocabulary and make sure to use the word ‘allegedly’ when necessary. Some editors or producers somewhere must have decided to switch to the ‘accuser’ language. Could…

I’ve posted about this before but what are the rules around calling someone an ‘accuser’ versus ‘victim’? The former seems very loaded and a fairly new thing I’ve noticed creeping into major news outlets over the past few years and also occasionally on Gawker and Jez. It seems like such a dark development given that…

Exactly like that. There are ghosts who were servants and ghosts who were part of the family that owned the house.

I get ‘stuff I don’t want to hear’ all of the time. Every single time I ask about this one guy I’d like to commit to me, they’re like ‘Nope. Forget it. Never happening.’ I even had the opportunity to ask different tarot readers hoping for a better answer and basically, everyone had the same script. Sigh.

I agree on both of your comments. There aren’t really any tarot cards that are inherently terrible to receive in a reading.

I love your matching story! May I ask the name of the museum?

Please come back! I bet it was one of the upstairs folk who lectured you ;) We have both upstairs and downstairs ghosts.

I have a very gentle ghost story. I volunteer at the Merchant’s House Museum in the East Village. It’s known as the most haunted house in NYC and weird things happen there all the time. I truly adore the other volunteers and the museum itself—it’s the city’s only original brownstone and has all of the contents of the…

Do you ever drink vinho verde? So delicious and bubbly. May as well pick up a bottle of that while you’re at it. You’re making me want to stop by as well.