THANK YOU. It's a dream for a lot of black women (not me, mind) to be stay at home moms. She was also the primary breadwinner for the family for a long time. One of the reasons that so many black women look up to her is because she is the ideal as far as being educated, feminine, whip-smart and a perfect mom.

Saying that she isn't feminist is ignoring the fact that women of color typically do not have the option to stay home with her children. Her choice to take a more passive role can be viewed as reaisting the role society has predetermined for women of color. Intersectional feminism amyone?

I spent every Sunday last season watching football with my friend's boyfriend, which included brunch and sometimes a late lunch/early dinner. The vast majority of the time it was just the two of us. No one thought anything of it, because it's the furthest thing from "not an awesome idea" imaginable to share a meal…

"Shitty interview skills."

Y'all are missing Nimrod's point, which is the "boys would be concerned about hurting a girl" part, meaning that girls and women (or, as he no doubt calls us, "females") owe it to boys and men to let them be all chivalrous so they can go around feeling like gennelmen. So if a girl wants to wrestle, she should sit the…

If she was doing Greco-Roman, it's all about upper-body strength. She's doing Folk and is 12; it's similar to your experience in Judo (really wish that had been available to me when I was younger.)

I was going to say that. If you look at a bunch of 7th graders, the girls tower over the boys in a lot of cases. It's seems like the boys shoot up and fill out once they are sophomores.

Jeebus, one gendered difference I've learned is to never go for a bar on a female opponent, skip straight to the choke or pin. Always go for the ankle-bar on old men. Never try to throw someone shorter than you, always throw the opponent a foot taller than you.

His whole hypothesis is flawed (well, I mean obviously it is, but even if we humor him). I don't know about wrestling, but I do know that in other grappling sports (or at least in mine), upper body strength is not the end-all-be-all. It helps but it doesn't win you the match.

Hell, given some of the variances with puberty, I'd be worried that a 12 year old girl might be too strong for some prepubescent boys.

During early adolescence, physical strength between girls and boys is basically identical. This would certainly apply to twelve-year-old kids. Yes, as an adult, she would be at a disadvantage, but right now she's not competing in higher levels of wrestling and there's no reason based on physical strength at this point…

Hell, I've had my ass handed to me a girl in my same weight class (155 at the time) with a FANTASTIC Brazilian Cross. I didn't underestimate shit, I was outclassed on speed and skill (I focused on training my standup game too much).

The fact remains that an athlete, who wants to compete, will have trained for and be tested to compete at that weight class. A 170 lb female athlete is going to be very different than a 170 lb nonathlete. They aren't taking girls at random and throwing them into matches, this is a girl who trained to compete at her…

None of these are studies of children or adolescents. Those studies look at adults.

"…[I]f they win, they've beaten a girl; if they lose, they are harassed by their teammates for being beaten by a girl."

It isn't. Our little Missouri team had a female that wrestled 130. She was a killer. I've told this story before, but it's worth repeating. She wrestled in a dual against some dork that came on the mat and indicated to the crowd, with gestures and smirks, what he thought of wrestling a "girl." She snapped it off in…

I've only grown up competing in coed martial arts, I'll have to pull up some competition spreadsheets for you. In the meantime, where is your data that athletes of similar weight classes aren't evenly matched?

"There no evidence that will satisfy me because my mind is made up! How could a GIRL possibly be stronger than a big, strong man, even though she made the team and is presumably willing to compete?"

Uh, I've seen girls in the 170 realm go toe to toe in several BJJ matches and win. If they are there and weigh in, they are there for a reason.

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