I had a dream where one of my coworkers came up to me and gently caressed me. Then he slowly leaned forward and kissed me softly. We made out. Not hard, all sweet. In the dream I felt uplifted.

Hah, I’m glad I’m not the only one who really hates “that”.

I lean toward believing the victim in general, knowing that my belief is irrelevant—and feeling strongly that when it comes toward consequences, innocent until proven guilty should be the guiding principle.

Can someone explain to me how any of this Western wedding stuff makes sense?

So, like, they really should have run that hashtag by me before going with it. It should really be #IDdicts.

That would be amazing!

I used to read Jezebel a lot. But several of my favorite writers left and the whole platform became more ... blog-ish. Too much gossip, too much short commentary, too much random stuff from the middle of a conversation... not enough comedy prose.

PS: The rape parts come in when she’s betrayed and sold into slavery in another country. That’s why most readers emphasize that Phedre is empowered and consents. This clarity, the border between when she is robbed of her ability to withhold consent, is clear, explicit, and temporary—and portrayed as deeply wrong and…

It happens in the first book, too. When Phedre is in Skaldia she is a slave and she talks about how different it is from being “the pampered servant of Delauny’s House”. She discusses how much she hates the fact that she can’t choose and that being Kushiel’s Chosen means her body reacts with desire no matter what—she…

They are not rapey at all, except when there is actual rape...and it is clear when it is rape. These are amazing books with a lot of nuanced portrayals of sex and consent. Two examples:

I don't get why people want to be so deliberately disingenuous about there being continuities of physical traits.

You know what's sort of embarrassing, is I actually have half my head shaved, piercings, tattoos, am wearing a vest as a jacket, and boots.

I loved A Week to be Wicked, but A Lady by Midnight and A Night to Surrender were kind of meh...and Any Duchess Will Do was kind of awful.

It actually seems possible to me that what the quote says is also part of the truth. What he saw was so crazy fucked up he couldn't even process it at first. He might have been thinking, "there's no way that is what it looks like".

"All cultural signifiers of traditional gender roles shall be conformed to. All non-white students shall be required to practice aspirational whiteness."

So, I just can't get past how he fails one of my fundamental requirements.

The *hell*?

Tangentially, I had an ex who tended to be just regular noisy. But every time he was about to come he got louder—and always the same noises. Eventually it was like conditioning, and I would get extra excited as soon as I started to hear it.

Hey, this may finally be a fitness bracelet worth getting!

I'm sorry this is the setup for a serial killer movie. There is nothing not creepy about it.