I always figure, as an agnostic, it's more about the structured social and legal benefits. Also, if I were going to do the children thing, I think a traditional family structure is desirable. Not for any innate superiority, but simply because it is normative.

I think with, "porn's not that big a deal"?

I think it's quite telling that many people's discomfort with the label is not wanting to be associated with a strawman invented by white men—rather than not wanting to be associated with very real problems internal to feminism.

On one hand, of course I'm feminist. But on the other hand, I don't volunteer the word and sometimes when someone else uses it to label me I respond, "Depends on what you mean when you use the word. I'm not a feminist stereotype."

For years I've complained of dizziness and exhaustion.

My apologies for putting words in your mouth. I am not actually doing so except in the first sentence. I only felt the rest would be suggested through implication to some readers because of the setting and original subject of the conversation.

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Oh, man. They didn't have much dueling in that period anymore, I think. It was illegal. Just think of the possibilities if they'd set it in an earlier period.

Classic. I'm a MUD fan, too.

Yes, because there are not plenty of violent crimes against actual people that they could be policing instead.

As a lifelong asthmatic and allergic and non-allergic rhinitis sufferer I find the laws to be the kind of paternalism I'd prefer not to see legislated.

And don't forget these people whose brains are still developing are capable of consenting to sex.

That's good news, I think.

Once a guy told me he was surprised that I was so fun to talk to — my ex was totally wrong about my being boring. It did work. When I was about 16 and rebounding from my first broken heart.

Well, because of the context. Here we have a little girl who has absorbed superficial and silly gender expectations teasing another little girl about "boy shoes". Her dad's response is, "I don't know where she gets it."

"Life is pain. Anyone who says differently is selling something."

Well, that's rude.

See, that's interesting. I think most people outside the community have a picture that a Dom is selfish — thinking about their own gratification first and foremost. But, anecdotally I've noticed that, off the cuff, subs are more likely to talk about their feelings and Doms are more likely to talk about their…

I've tried it, too. For me, it's just weird being on top and trying to be dominant is just...laughable. I'm standing there going, "Okay...now what?"

It's interesting phrased that way. Men like status because it furthers their reproductive agenda because women like status.