would love to get a bottle of wine into these two women and just listen to the funny ass stories that would come out.

It's not your right to say it without consequence, idiot. It's just your right to say it without the government arresting you.

I know - and the worst part is that they act like not being culturally "allowed" to say the n-word is some sort of infringement on their rights. Like it's something they need to do, and society is keeping them from doing it.

Sorry Portraitofme. The people who are calling you out kind of got you. Any white person who truly is non-racist knows that the original poster isn't referring to white people in general. I think you should take a long look at yourself and ask why you are getting defensive. Essentially saying that "not all white…

WON'T SOMEBODY THINK OF THE WHITE PEOPLE???

They're not racist, they just support her freedom to be racist...

It's not a discussion about racism without white people jumping in to remind you that we're not all like that.

Actually, no, I meant white people. Next time I'll be sure to revise that to white people minus PortraitOfMmeX and their friends. Sorry if after the last few days of watching people tap dance around a grown woman's blatant racism - calling black people monkeys and wanting to reenact a plantation era wedding - I…

Annnnd... cue the ignorant hypocrisy. One of my lesbian neighbors just posted her support of Paula Deen on Facebook. This after constant complaints of how her own father won't accept her or her wife.

When I was growing up, if someone came to the front door and all of us (siblings, as children) were sitting around, relaxing, there's a word we would say that would imply "I'm not getting it!". It was like saying "shotgun!" when getting into a car.

PLEASE, someone tell me that you've seen the paulasbestdishes hashtag. It is brilliant. My favorites so far are Coon on the Cobb, Ku Klux Klam Kakes, Wadin' In The Watermelon and When White Folks Talkin' You Better Hushpuppies. This has made my life.

“I get it, believe me. But what’s hard for people to understand is that she didn’t mean it as racist. It sounds bad, but that’s not what’s in her heart. She’s just from another time.”

Two things -

1) We're talking about statements made relatively recently, not in the 1960s. The comment about wanting a "slavery themed wedding" was from 2007.

I'm sorry, but that's a pretty poor metaphor. Paula Deen used racist language in her racist present, not some abstract communal past. Meanwhile, Nazism or any iteration thereof is not tolerated by mainstream German culture and hasn't been for a while. Whereas you could make a decent argument that racism is tacitly…

I swear, if I see one more white baby boomer commenting that "black people say it all the time!"

Of course there were be all the requisite Facebook posts and news quotes about how people aren't supporting Deen because they're racist; it's because they "support her freedom of speech." (A la Chik-fil-a.)

I can sympathize because I don't have cable and watch the show after it airs as well, but it's really up to you to avoid spoilers after a show has aired. The world does not owe you a spoiler-free bubble.

Don't buy into that! He totally said that to manipulate you. Ignore him and continue to associate with whoever you choose to.

Here's a sample of how things looked: flowers from my mother's and mother-in-law's gardens, burlap purchased by the bolt at a fabric store and cut down by hand, plastic cutlery and plates from a kitchen supply store.

If I were you, I'd tell him exactly what you just said here, then cut off all contact. He'll probably try to drag your relationship out as much as he has his last.