I literally wrote in my comment that I do not think the wrongful workplace termination of a dude is okay.

This reaction is exactly why I hate all the whinging about “but what if I get called to HR for something innocuous?”

While I don’t think it’s awesome (nor do I deny that it could happen) that a dude could lose his job over someone who feels slighted or vindictive, the fact of the matter is the vast majority of the…

Ditto! Took a temp reception job with an org not even remotely related to my undergrad: 8.5 years later, managerial role in a large IT shop (also not undergrad related).

It’s also pointless, cause people can just... remember what they heard/saw, and communicate on their personal phone about it the second they leave the office (or go hide in the bathroom for 5 minutes. lol)

I mean, I agree with and understand what you’re saying. I’m aware of what a Sea Change is.

I don’t think the frustration is “why isn’t everything fixed RIGHT NOW?” so much as it’s: for the vast majority of women, this isn’t a watershed moment at all, because none of this is news or a sea change to us (and only qualifies as shift in the cultural paradigm because men have [been forced to] acknowledge it).

I think the worst thing about ghosting, from my perspective at least, is how fucking stupid it makes me feel for believing “I can’t wait to see you again” or “I really like you and this feels natural” and then me dropping my walls/defences for something that was never going to happen anyway.

I honestly could have written this (except being 33 and not 31), and while I’ve got no advice or anything to offer that makes any of this easier, I just wanted to say thanks for sharing it, because I also feel like much less of an alien and a lot less alone in all these feelings. <3

I feel this so hard. After more than a year of not dating, I met someone and it seemed like it had some potential, so I let the walls down a bit, let my hopes get up, then: he ghosted.

I think it’s cause if I have a friend who texts ask if I’m free to talk on the phone, that the conversation is going to be serious (my friends and I joke about “who died?” every time one of us calls the other).

Yeah, the 1-2 hour timeframes are totally reasonable. I’m an avid texter, but sometimes work is just nuts and the only chance I actually have to look at my messages is in the toilet between meetings (yeah, I’m gross, come at me folks. lol).

Interestingly, I just listened to a podcast about this that shows if you’re born on or around Christmas, you’re more likely to be named Christine, Carol, or Jesus.

Eh, I technically have a family, but realistically, I don’t. Like, I talk to my dad a couple of times a year, but I have seen him maybe a handful of times in the past 15 years. My relationship with my mother was very strained until I was an adult, and then I had about a year of rebuilding that before she died…

There’s a couple of these places in existence! Not sure if they’re near enough to you to be of any use, but they’re around :)

Weirdly, this is the first time I’d ever seen the BAME acronym in use, so thanks for introducing it to my lexicon :)

Neil Degrasse Tyson, I think.

More than likely. I’ve had it for like, a month already.

Ah yes, this is the loophole one that saves them from the head-exploding. It’s quite brilliant, actually.

Much like computer programming was a female-dominated field until it became obvious it was an area where serious $$$ could be made, and prestige gained.

The other thing to consider here is that, even if SOL runs out on his vics in the US, he filmed a LOT of X-men in Canada (Toronto, Vancouver, Cold Lake in Alberta, Montreal, etc), where there is no SOL for victims of sexual assault.