Did she ask her daughter's permission to write about the subject? When we have the answer to that and we know what her daughter said, we can continue the discussion.

@zaika: YES! So did I!

I live in an area (Surrey, as it happens) of the UK that has a few traveller communities and my mother has taught their children and witnessed parts of their lives - she'd never heard of 'grabbing' before it was talked about on this show, but from what she has said about the traveller culture, it wouldn't surprise me…

Thing is, slowed down like that, his action looks far more deliberate. It's just as possible that he was trying to pull her down and made a misgrab.

@rosie7: And they say (that is, sexist assholes say) that teh wiminz flourish best in the creative industries. Such arse. Women flourish best when they are given the same opportunities and choices as men. Cleary, the film industry is not doing this.

I agree, so hard. This bizarre stereotype probably explains why hair advice for women discourages putting one's tresses into a tight, tidy bun/ponytail (so chic, yet so neat on windy days!) because allegedly, it makes one look 'hard'.

Despite my natural ambivalence towards any 'rules for love' (we're all individuals, y'all), these are a sensible but not overly-proscriptive set.

To be honest, I long for the day that some asshole yells at me from a car, and then stops at traffic lights a few yards in front of me so I can bang on his window, give him the finger and ask him if he talks to his mother like that.

Women = victims of the sexual desires of others/men/society, with all the sexual autonomy and decision-making power of a paper bag.

@Marzelline: Agreed! My boyfriend sees (this the impression I get, anyway) the arguments we have about feminism and sexuality as a personal attack on him as a straight, white, cis male and I struggle to help him understand that it's not about him persoanlly.

Loved this article; as a white, cisgender woman who is able-bodied/-minded, I can see where you're coming from and I support your call for these debates and conversations to be about _people_ and not groups divided and defined by differences.

@JulieSunday: True dat. I spent most of my university career actively trying to have sex and failing miserably.

Everytime I think I might be safe somewhere (on my own, at night, usually) I have a combination of my mother's voice and a fantasy news article reporting my death in my head reminding me that I can never relax like that. I'm certain my mother never warned my brother about the big bad world like she tries to warn/scare…

I sympathise with 'Sue' - those two weeks were probably the only time she didn't have to deal with the fall-out from her horrible children. She's got to look after them for the rest of their lives; I think Burned but Freezing got off light.

Love it - 'Actually, the sex is fine, because they aren't having it.'

Does this mean Alaska has loads of suicides or none?

I certainly don't remain permanently mad at my beau for doing things that upset me, but I do wait until he sincerely expresses to me that he has understood what is upsetting me before I go 'Thanks, I feel better now, I hope we're ok'. I guess that's what this means - don't just roll over and go 'Oh, it's fine' because…

Who else thought for a moment that Iman had skinned Victoria Beckham and was wearing her empty flesh like a cloak?

Sex after two dates?! The horror!

@SlayBelle: Ditto - these women are calling the sex that was had 'state-sanctioned' and I think that's where the ick-factor comes from.