Yeah this is my life basically. My wife is indian, her parents immigrants to the UK, and yet they vote Conservative, and pro-Brexit. Also they’re awful homophobes. It’s taken a long time for my wife to shake her guilt and stop attending every family function they tell her to show up and “save face” at, but we are all…

I mean, it makes sense when a white mom tells other white moms to fucking pay attention to what’s happening, because it’s happening to HER biracial babies.

Oof, that’s the sound of someone who has had the privilege of a parent who hasn’t emotionally, physically, or sexually abused you until you had to take the socially unacceptable step of protecting yourself by distancing yourself from them. You don’t owe your parents your love, fidelity, and respect if they never…

Agreed. And more unsolicited advice from someone who has also had to partially estrange herself from her mother (in this case because of untreated mental illness): therapy is a wonderful, wonderful thing. This is really heavy stuff and it helps immensely to find a safe place to talk about it.

I didn’t want to say anything because it was a diversion from the more important part of the article, but yeah, there are precious few people who can claim to be screwed by Obamacare. A lot of people claim Obamacare screwed them, but when you dig a little deeper it’s usually, “my premiums went up under Obamacare”. …

Que 10,000 comments about being too harsh on “well-meaning allies” *wank off motion* and how we’re alienating those who want to help us *wank off motion*

As the saying goes, “You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.”

I really want them to realize how insulting it is for them to drag their babies into a discussion where they were being problematic.

What I don’t get is how the hell a Frenchwoman who’s parents were probably directly affected by WWII apparently sees nothing wrong with letting Nazis have free-reign to trample all over a government again.

Your definitely name fits...

I had a coworker who cut her parents off right after the election. She’s white, a lesbian in an interracial marriage (her wife is Latina). Her parents voted for 45. She was like “No, we will not be coming to your house for Thanksgiving, and I see no need for us to speak further.” She has 3 or 4 siblings who are like…

The expression “blood is thicker than water” originally meant that the bond between comrades is stronger than family, as in bathing in the blood of your enemies is a pretty powerful bonding experience, and it has been bastardized into meaning the exact opposite.

I’ve always been REAL suspicious that anyone who tells you you’ve gotta look past stuff like this is secretly harboring some toxic shit of their own and wants the reassurance you’d look past that too.

I know it’s not shocking, but it’s heartbreaking to hear someone talk about how their own mother chose whiteness over their children. And wanting to take you to a step-family’s Thanksgiving? Just gross.

Unsolicited advice from someone who survived a very necessary estrangement from her own mother: beware of anyone who attempts to convince you that you should be able to look past this. I wish someone had told me 20 years ago that “blood is not thicker than safety.” Thank you and good luck.

Good morning PJ. I had a similar relationship with my best friend’s mother until, for my own mental sanity I had to cut her off. My best friend is white and I am black and I am the godmother her children (if the unthinkable happens, my BFF wants me - and not any one in her family - to take care of her kids, lawyers…

Granted, it’s not the main point of the story, but I just hope that when my time comes, my mom will be able to regale people with loving remembrances like “Before he started losing his hair and gaining weight, he was very good looking.”

Small town papers are the best for epic screw ups. One week ago my town newspaper printed the paper... from one year prior. Just straight up delivered us a one year old paper. It was hilarious.

Steve Rogers, who resigned as the newspaper’s editor in 2000 after his arrest on felony charges of lying about two fires in his home and faking threatening letters from readers to fool investigators, (he would plead guilty to making a false report and fabricating evidence) is the director of a television station in…