More sort of a narcissism (I am NOT a doctor though) combined with a regimen of adderall, conspiracy theory books and sleep deprivation. I actually think I helped him by drawing a firm line and making him move out. He's way better now, I think, though I rarely see him.

You make a lot of great, well thought out points. I'm still a little uncertain as to what you suggest we be doing at this point. I do feel like we should call out a lot of what you call "symptoms", mostly because I think we need to be having an ongoing conversation about them. I think that bystander education is…

This (the first part, not the suicide fake out) reminds me of the time my roommate slid a note under my door professing his love, and also his fear that I was actually secretly the head of a coven of witches trying to drive him insane. It went on and on and on about how his existence was somehow defined by me and I…

I don't know. I see what you mean, but I do think that this sort of thing isn't so much a symptom as an integral part of rape culture. This pressure on the boys to score in order to get approval from other boys contributes to their view of women as trophies, or prizes or notches on a bedpost, rather than, you know, peo…

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I think the idea is that this is a result of social conditioning rather than an innate gender difference. I'm not sure anyone is denying that this is the more standard pattern, just that it isn't innate to us, but rather that we don't make these choices in a vacuum. If we did, it might be different.

Anyone who can reply with a IT Crowd clip is my friend forever.

"The disintegration represented by childbearing outside marriage, a frequent topic in my writing, was a prominent example because it underlies so much of the social disintegration generally, as it is child abuse and neglect"

Beyond the obvious reasons to be disturbed by this, was anyone else disturbed by simply the very beginning? "If you are standing by yourself at any point, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!! If you are talking to a brother of your pledge brothers when there are girls just standing around, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!!"

I am really terrified of this man and the power he wields. He is a supreme court justice who sounds like a conservative talk radio host, and he will probably be there for a long long time yet. This is fucking scary stuff.

I would love to see that.

You sum that up very well. This article, and the headline, were so fucking horrible. Just a casual headline referring to someone "bragging" about "losing his virginity" at the age of EIGHT. I can imagine this on some right-wing racist hate site. Made my stomach churn.

That sounds like it could be fun with the right group of people. Depending on how many people are coming, you could just have the core, wedding party group bring food. Bridesmaids in fancy weddings are often required to buy their own expensive dress and shoes and throw brunches and so on. If your friends seem like…

If nothing else, it's going to be fun to watch them freak out. They've grown sooooooo complacent.

I'm so sorry that happened to you, it just breaks my heart to think of it. I hope you have had good support in your life and that you are ok.

You still fail to address what I have repeatedly asked you to address: the fact that the statement with which I took issue was the part about "not even trying". Once again, as I have said over and over, I am not actually predicting and outcome. I'm discussing possibilities, which is different.

It's not hard, you are being patronizing once again. You can keep repeating yourself all you want, but you have failed to grasp the basic concept so I will not be repeating myself again.

"vaguely traumatic"? The hell, Doug Barry?

And to reduce my assertion that defeatist attitudes aren't helpful to a "DON'T BE SO NEGATIVE nag" (nag? really?) is patronizing, as well as demonstrating a misunderstanding of my point. Please don't equate me with people who think you can positive thought your way out of cancer.

Catholics poll more pro-choice and pro-marriage equality than the rest of the country, and this also goes for hispanics.