Duh, Gordon. Just pay your fucking palimony. Jeez.

You're totally right. We always tell people to flee the states that restrict our rights, but wouldn't we do more good in the world if we encouraged progressives to move to those states and vote there? I'm tired of people telling me to leave Texas, or telling women to leave Louisiana. We have amazing food and people…

I agree. Someone trying to be an ally is a good thing. It is also an excellent jumping off point to examine the ways in which privilege is operative in the situation. Doing the latter doesn't mean you're dismissing the former. It just means you are continuing the work.

I believe there's a version aimed at men where it's a prostate exam, so they're throwing gay panic in there as well.

I know it's not what I'm meant to be focusing on here, but look at everyone wearing full length pants! That one girl has boots and a jacket! It is still super hot here in Texas!

I didn't attack you, and I didn't endorse you being attacked. I gently suggested that you might not understand the context in which you are raising your point, and that I believe if you really needed to make that point right now, you should have phrased it a little better.

And you seem reeeeeeeeeaaaaaalllllyyyy invested in making that point. No one is failing to get your point. They are questioning whether you need to make it right here, now, in this conversation. You seem unwilling to consider the possibility that no, maybe you don't need to make that point. Maybe it's not helping…

Yes, she's allowed to feel however she feels about it. Street harassment is still a real and pervasive problem separate from the individual reactions of women subject to it. One really has very little to do with the other. Does that answer your question? The reason that your question about whether or not it's ok that…

I think "realistic" should be the word maybe. My body is real, but it's an unrealistic goal for a lot of people and they shouldn't be made to feel bad about what is real for them. I wasn't overweight, but there were ways in which I was different, and since I don't have the time, money, or frankly, the inclination, to…

Exactly. I also didn't starve myself or work out, I just have specific genetics + breastfeeding, and that's my body. It's real. I'm not incredibly outraged or anything, but language is important. Back when "Real Women Have Curves" was this huge deal, I was a skinny, small-breasted girl, and being told I wasn't a real…

Yeah, I mean, I'm not horribly outraged, but language is important.

Can we please stop using the word "real" to discuss women's bodies? All of our bodies are real. I really prefer the HuffPo headline. This is this lovely thing, no need to make it about who has a "real" body vs . . . what exactly?

Wow, reading those sentences rocketed me back to my childhood bedroom. I had forgotten the bathtub part for some reason. Judy Blume is wonderful.

Ha! When I was 8-10, my friends and I talked about sex constantly, read and watched anything we could get our hands on. This didn't mean we actually wanted to be sexually active, like AT ALL, but we were interested in the idea.

The way I remember that part of the book (and it's been ages, but. . . it made an impression), it's not a washcloth or anything. She just says something about how she has this special place that feels good when she touches it and that that helps her sleep sometimes and she doesn't know if she's the only one.

My fear is that we have homogenized the culture such that typical brogrammers are the only ones allowed in, which has caused us to lose so many other perspectives and get trapped in a bubble of non-diversity, and that therefore our creativity will be stifled due to lack of new ideas.

*off to the liquor store*

Anytime. I am always down for a Buffy marathon.

I shall be made an example and will have no cakes today :-(

I am off to change all my screen names to "lascivious shenanigans" now.