Sounds to me like the issue is that you've fluctuated between being a doormat and being an asshole. Have you tried being a self-assured, nice, respectful person who treats people the way you'd like to be treated?

She's right.

Have you seen the New Zealand recreation of this video? She only got stopped twice and once was for directions. So....

I think those assholes just try their luck with everyone. I doubt it's that they specifically are drawn to you; they just cast a wide net, so everyone encounters them a lot. Between the two or three really great guys I've dated have been a bunch of losers and assholes. They didn't last long (because they were…

Yeah, certain quotes you get from memes on instagram sound great, but aren't necessarily correct.

I think my realizations have been:

You attract who you are. Maybe you need to stop looking at everyone else and start looking in the mirror.

Hey, obviously I don't know you, but that train of thought has been familiar to me when I've dealt with depression.

So your loophole is: People have treated me like shit in the past, therefore I and others can act like dicks in the future.

I have 20 years on you and have come to the opposite conclusion. There's a real quiet, lovely satisfaction in knowing you are a good person who won't lie, cheat, steal or screw others over, and who, in fact, goes out of one's way to be kind and helpful. I see myself as creating the world I live in. Not all of it - I'm…

Not gonna do much for women stuck working in sweatshops, tho

Thank you. We're an image board away from, "Anyone who hasn't sexually taken advantage of a sleeping female relative is a liar". I hear stories of sexual abuse perpetrated on younger relatives all the time normalized like it was playing hide-and-go-seek. This shit isn't fucking helping!

That doesn't mean that people didn't get hurt or that those things weren't wrong

It's common, but to the extent that she did it, and to the age it continued to (Lena was 17 and still pulling this shit), that's not natural. Is it normal for two five year olds to look at each other's junk? Yeah, especially considering it's not technically junk yet. Is it normal for someone to spend years coercing…

I did not and am not a liar. I was taught early that private parts are private, which is actually pretty damn important so that children can recognize and articulate sexual abuse. My sibling and I were not bathed together past me turning 5, and we were not permitted to share a bed past me turning 10. I haven't seen…

I think many people have stories involving body exploration as a child. I don't think many have them involving their younger siblings (especially considering the age difference here). I had a cousin that I experimented with as a kid and that was fine - we were the same age. However, she also had a younger sister and I…

But does everyone also have similar stories about bribing younger siblings to kiss them on the mouth? Or about bribing younger siblings to lie on top of them? Or about masturbating in bed next to your 10 year old sibling when your'e 17? Because I think those are the things people are much more squicked out about.

I'm not lying. I don't have any experiences like this. I have five sisters, and to my knowledge, none of us ever behaved that way. The pebble story doesn't bother me, it's odd, but they were both very young. But masturbating in bed next to your ten year old sister is predatory.

This is a great point. If the above account was written by a 7-year-old Lena Dunham a week after it happened, it would read as totally harmless. But it wasn't. It was written by a 20-something Lena Dunham with no acknowledgement that she is in dicey territory.

I think my biggest issue with this whole fiasco is not the acts Lena describes, but that she so cavalierly mentions that she did what a sexual predator would do (as I realize you discuss in this article). I realize that this is her brand of humor and maybe I just don't get her humor, but it is an out-of-touch,…