It sounds like you guys had a marriage talk or were maybe engaged when you were buying a house. I don't know, that seems different than the people I'm referring to in my snarky comment above. You guys seemed to have determined/were planning for that commitment, so buying a house was just part of that!

Yeah, those are the sorts I'm referring to with my comment. Some people (like some posted below) buy a house together while planning for the wedding. That doesn't seem like a conflict of interest to me, as it sounds like people who are doing that have already decided/are planning their wedding, so they know that…

Nah, I'm with you. I refused to move in with my now-Fiance until we were at least engaged. Personally I'd rather have waited until we got married, but given a lot of things it would either have been a quick courthouse wedding or a long engagement where we lived about 2 hours from each other. But even then, I put up…

Agreed. I don't get the rationale of 'we're emotionally ready to buy a house and have kids but not ready for marriage.'

Worked at a diner when I was 17. Got sick, tried to call in. Manager gave me the usual, "Am I giving you too many shifts? You always seem to be sick." So I said "Fine, I'll come in sick" and slammed the phone down.

Stories like this make me so nervous. As a bride just starting the planning process, I am terrified to put a burden on my maids or family to attend. Im going to pick a color and let the girls pick what they want and call that the gifts - Im paying to get their hair done and letting them do their own makeup, either…

I worked as a server in South Carolina when I was 17. I had people leaving me 'Jesus Papers' all the time. But a Baptist one took the cake. It was a cartoon about a man in his 40s who went to church, raised his family, but he wasn't really INTO it. Church bored him, he checked out other women sometimes, and he sat…

If you want to discourage abortions (and contraception but I would usually put those people in an even further camp) this is the result. It does no good to pretend that no condoms and no abortions has no side effects. This seems pretty open and honest to me though - these kids talk about how tough it is but they are…

I cannot help but feel that the absolute worst part of this story is the #bestproposalever. It was not the best proposal ever. It never will be. You are not that special and people do not care about your proposal. Maybe it was the best for you, but your opinions do not constitute a universal truth.

It sounds like this guy has some severe mental illnesses that are not being addressed.

Wow - I definitely did not expect so many responses. Thank you all!

I wish there was a version of this for daughters and dads. I'm getting married next year and my dad and I are not close. We can have nice 20 minute phone conversations but beyond that it ends in a fight. How does one navigate that relationship when all I can think about is him getting drunk and being a dick to…

Uh, Daniel Dae Kim? Rick Yune? Trust me I was not watching Snow Falling On Cedars for Ethan Hawke! (Though it is a good movie and a wonderful book).

Heck yes! Those employees don't need jobs - we should just give out food to everyone who needs and wants it. And appliances. It totally worked in the Soviet Union! What a great thought!

Nowhere did I claim to be an expert on what these safety discussions should be - I used the 'stranger danger' as a small example of why we shouldn't shy away from the 'safety' issues when discussing rape.

If that's the worst people call me in a Jezebel forum I'm going to consider that I got off easy.

Oh no, safety is something that everyone should get more of. My only concern is that in a conversation about rape and women, we tend to shy away from safety measures because to talk about them is to talk about how rape is preventable by the victim, in some sick and twisted peoples' minds. I don't think we should shy…

Absolutely, men are victims of crimes as well. I wrote an Op-Ed in college because our local organizations were doing outreach for rape victims and would only talk about female victims, but never about men.

Please keep this going.

The one thing I will say is that I don't believe we should stop pushing safety awareness and safety measures on young women just because rape apologists might pick that up as fodder to blame the victim.

We should still be loudly telling women (young women, on college campuses who may not ever have lived so far from…