You can hire minorities and still have racist thinking.

To this, I suggest this and taking one of the tests on race: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takea…

Thank you for saying this and being real about it.

Stick it out, girl. Took me a solid year of being off the pill before things got back to normal. And they've never been better.

We need to stop putting anyone on pedestals to begin with.

Thank you!!

Well, yeah, I mean I agree that most men probably aren't going to respond via #1. All 3 of those choices are based off of our current system where white men decide what everyone else looks at. If men's appearance was more emphasized in our culture, I don't think white men would be the one's deciding what is put out…

hahahaha!

Emphasizing men's appearance would naturally de-emphasize women's, though.

Well said.

fine by me:)

Yes, we do have to face the shame of our history. I went and visited Germany for the first time last year and saw so many monuments, plaques, etc. dedicated to holocaust victims and survivors. Not only that, there were plaques saying things along the lines of: "This many Jewish people died in this spot", or "The…

We humans are all so awkward, I just love it.

That sounds rough. Parents having sex is just the worst. My friend and I once walked in on her parent's getting it on in the middle of the afternoon. Her mom was screaming "OH REGIS" so loudly we thought something was wrong and busted into their bedroom. Bad idea.

terrifying.

The article is talking more about being there to help your son contain and regulate his big emotions, rather than having him go to his room and letting him process it on his own. I say from experience, when we can keep ourselves as calm as possible during outbursts, and still stay present, empathic, and engaged, not…

Sorry, but you cannot compare spanking/corporal punishment to a mother cat biting and grabbing her kitten by the shoulders. Not the same thing.

You are not wrong. This person is either a troll, or someone who finds this conversation very threatening. Or both!

Perhaps that particular animal metaphor didn't work, but one that 100% does is attachment. It's also not really a metaphor, but the biological, genetic hardwiring present at birth until death of all mammals to seek comfort, security, and safety from their caregivers (and as we grow into adults, from our parters,…

I posted this to another commenter. Great article on dealing with aggression in kids without using spanking. Your kid doesn't like being violent with you and getting spanked in return, and I get that it's hard and you don't like it, either. Hope this helps.