Sort of what I'm saying, except that it's more that our will is *influenced* by patriarchy. In other words, I don't think it's possible to separate the choice to wear heels (or many aspects of Kyary Pamy Pamyu style) from white patriarchy. It's influence is widespread and so deeply entrenched that it's often…

No that isn't my point. I've explained it many times within this thread.

Maybe the "it's not an authentic choice" statement above wasn't clear. Not authentic choice meaning it's a choice created by patriarchy, and therefore the choice to wear them is influenced by patriarchy. So it's impossible to separate the choice to wear them from patriarchal influence. (Which doesn't mean that…

I don't think you're hearing me. I'm not saying wearing heels isn't a choice. I'm saying it IS a choice influenced by white patriarchal standards of beauty. Doesn't mean you can't be a great feminist in heels. We all find our different ways to resist. Or not resist. Wear whatever the f*ck you want. Regardless, my…

Doesn't matter whether all men do or don't. You're missing my point.

A couple things:

Well, I don't wear heels either. And I'm not a rich white woman. So go figure. Also, I never said women are all victims of patriarchy for wearing heels that destroy their feet. I said that a woman's choice to wear heels is influenced by patriarchal, among other, structures.

I agree with you on how crucial nuance and complexity is, and that we should be trying to look at every situation through that lens.

omg the "They CHOSE to be there!! Nobody forced them to do it!" arguments make my head spin.

The VMAs offer a great view of our society, and it makes me sad.

Gotcha. I only know the very basics, and really only how they relate to attachment. But since it is such a hot bed of visceral emotional processing, it makes sense.

That's way too simple, tho. The choices we make are influenced by patriarchy, white supremacy, heteronormativity, etc. There's a shit ton of pressure on women to look a certain way, pressure we're not even aware of half the time b/c we've felt it since birth, basically. So it's not that easy to choose not to wear…

Does the amygdala influence what we find attractive? I always thought it was emotional processing, memory, learning, and motivation...

I feel very powerful barefoot. And in flats.

That's me! I never ever ever wear heels anymore and my feet are so happy.

Actually gang rape here is disturbingly prevalent and, not surprisingly, extremely underreported. Rest assured, (ahem) the odds are really good here, too.

We can do both, actually.

He sounds like he'd be really amazing in bed, doesn't he?

"More face on your face" and "Stick paint"...I'm dying. This is so good.

Read this article. Slowly.