True, but when I go into a restaurant my corporation manages, I don’t dress in casual clothing, I don’t get belligerently drunk, and so on and so forth. Bottom line: These people received a free flight for a non related work experience on behalf of their employer, that asks that they observe the bare minimum of…

This. I can stand him.

My friend had a Rosemary’s Baby-themed baby shower

It was nice message at all, I just couldn’t help thinking, “this fucking thing is going to kill me so hard and so weird.”

Smart. You want happy, well-adjusted kids? Try to give them happy parents. Keep those boundaries. It really is best for everyone.

Fuck that aspect of attachment parenting. I would like to keep a sex life going and my baby will not be sleeping in my bed. She just won’t. I will say that and then some people will be like “ahaha just wait” but dude, no. We already do not allow a 4-year-old into the bed and it’s a struggle to have her sleep through…

Always remember that attachment parenting was invented by a fundie who thinks that women working outside the home is inherently traumatic to her children. There’s some good, useful stuff mixed in but it should all be taken with a huge grain of salt.

The former :)

Congratulations and best wishes! Lots of great replies in this thread, and I won’t repeat some of the things already said, so here’s something new from mine (married 9 years, together for 13+):

I saw the thread include lots of “don’t go to bed angry”. That may work for you, but if it doesn’t, welcome to the club. I get really raw - emotionally that is - when I’m tired and 90% of the time, its insignificant enough that we wake up with no animosity. The other 10% is discussed much more rationally than when…

I didn’t remember this until after my marriage was over, but my grandmother told me once that “love” is a verb. It isn’t a noun. It isn’t a thing you feel or a thing that makes you happy. It isn’t a feeling at all. It is a thing you DO. You don’t always feel love, but you must LOVE.

Separate bathrooms, if possible.

If you can - make it so each is responsible for managing your own families and running interference on their little quirks.

I’m not married but in my former career doing sex education I worked with a lot of married couples, so I hope it’s ok if I chime in:

Give each other space - you’re getting married, not becoming joined at the hip - and lay out your expectations about housework, chores, pet peeves etc completely transparent from the get-go. You’d be amazed at how much the little things add up and erode empathy and patience in the long run.

Congratulations! I have been married for 16 years, so here are my two cents. You and your spouse don’t need to have the same interests or hobbies. I know a lot of people who think that married people need to have those things in common, but they are irrelevant. All that matters is that you support the each other’s…

Do not call names and don’t say things you can’t take back. This is funny cause I literally posted a question begging for tips about how to deal with resentment about second shift and emotional labor. BUT we’ve been married 10 years in June and honestly we’ll get through this round of frustrations because we talk…

My mom told me: “You’re going to change. He’s going to change. In 5, 10, 20 years, he will not be the person you married and vice versa. Don’t cling to what you thought you knew or were going to be.”

Make time for each other. My husband and I work very different schedules and we work a lot. So when we see each other, phones off, unplugged, all the attention is on each other. Even if that means just an hour (of sexy time lolz). We also never go to bed angry. That’s a rule. If we are arguing, it’s gotta be hashed…

Don’t go to Afghanistan that ruined mine, additionally be honest.