I was addressing the commentator Evie's post as to how lighter skin Black people in the US are more "successful" (not sure what her measure if success is) and challenged that assertion with my experience on the East Coast from elementary to law school how the schism that I see doesn't involve light vs. dark, but…

On the East Coast there seems to be a pipeline problem the causes of which are complex. I know how myself, my siblings, cousins, and friends were raised and it was to excell academically. I don't think anyone is lazy but this type of "helicopter" parenting seems to pay dividends, at least regionally. I see White…

It may very well be an East Coast phenomenon, as that's the entry point for many immigrants,but I went to Georgetown for law school and Af Amers were under-represented there as well. I'm happy to hear that in the South it doesn't seem to be an issue. It certainly is an issue in the Ivy League to the point of Af Amer…

Who said that anyone should be exempt from criticism? That would be rather odd.

When you've invested years and resources into a project that you care deeply about it's hurtful when someone knocks it in a dismissive, snarky way. Doesn't matter if you're a director, actor, lighting designer, costumer, musician, whatever. Doesn't matter if you're Martim Scorcese of some 12 year old in your school's…

As a creative it's hurtful when someone knocks your work for seemingly no reason. I've called people out on it too.

Racism and colorism is alive and well in this country, you'll get no argument from me on that point. But there have also been studies that show the absolute dearth of African Americans in elite universities in this country. If you are Black and you and your parents were born in this country you are almost non-existent…

Nope. Some of the most successful Black people I know in this country are dark-skinned who are kids of immigrants from African countries or the Caribbean, like myself, in households where a B+ is considered a bad grade. Academic acheivement is the be-all-end-all in those households. No one has time to whine about not…

Very good point. It seems akin to the choice that some women make to stay home for a period (or forever) to raise kids. That choice is not anti-feminist, though I understand that it can seem so on the outside. But to me, making choices that fit your life, brings you joy, and doesn't hurt others can never be…

It's tough as a feminist talking about not loving casual sex and prefering relationships. Other feminists often jump down my throat as if I'm a traitor to the cause, like casual sex is somehow "feminist." It's great if you enjoy it (and, as you pointed out, it seems like people enjoy it more or less at different…

Good points. Casual sex seems not to be a thing I'm good at because if I'm having sex with a guy I not only think he's cute but funny, cool, and interesting as well. Looks and/or horniness alone very rarely do it for me. The few times I hooked up with a guy I didn't like I felt very uncomfortable afterwards, it was a…

Very true! I think it's my age bracket. Casual sex is definitely something my friends and I are settling for, but in college it was fun .

Thanks! :-)

I know very few women who prioritize casual sex. I know many women (myself included) who can enjoy it in lieu of a relationship but I'd prefer to have sex with someone I think is rad and who thinks I'm rad (and if that's the case wouldn't we want to date each other?).

A lot of times it's with women who want or think it's more than just a one-night stand :-(.

Yes, definitely!

To "love" Kanye, a man who has been openly disparaging to Black women on multiple occasions, not to mention generally misogynistic and a bully makes me scratch my head.

Wow. He's an ass.

Ebonics?

Jezebel is so inconsistent. Seriously.