In that pic it looks like Wendy’s wearing a sweater and no pants. I don't want to see pantsless Wendy, either.

I think they really do. They have to find a way to live with themselves.

Mine would say it wasn’t abuse because he never hit me (except the time he threw something, intending it connect), I’m sure. Just the doors and walls and my stuff he broke. After having to admit physical abuse in a previous divorce, he “learned” to keep it verbal and psychological, and he was masterful at it. They…

Abuser: “She was abusive, too!” Mine used to think my “making him jealous” was “abuse”. <eyeroll>

Absolutely not.

Yes. I caught what I think was a mild flu (I had a flu shot) and spent yesterday in bed with muscle pain and a pretty high fever. Glad I stayed in bed though—-today I had the energy to put all the Xmas stuff away, and clean the house. Feeling accomplished, and ignoring the mountain of actual work-work I should be…

My ex convinced me to take out a loan (that he needed) with him. There’s a year left on payments I can’t afford to make, and he’s not late every month but just often enough that I need to grovel sometimes. Since I’m trying not to trash my credit, I have to be civil. While he plays the “completely reasonable” party for…

I tried to tell the new one, but he monitors social media accounts. Pretty sure he saw the message first and deleted it. I worry about her pretty often, but I tried. :/

They’re always so convincing when they’re trying to keep us quiet about what they did. And every single person who asks judgey “Why did you stay?” questions just enables abusers, because that makes a survivor reluctant to speak out. That guy deserves condemnation for his abuse, and good for her for not minimizing what…

I really wanted to use Milo way back in 1990 (but had a girl and didn't).

People like this are probably still running around insisting Dear was totally targeting Chase bank.

This guy is not even moderately attractive, and certainly nothing like the way he describes himself. Everything he wrote (as well as apparently thinking there was s chance she’d ever give him the time of day, later) reeks of deluded entitlement. She’s so out of his league physically, it’s ludicrous.

Super jealous, insecure people cannot deal with that. It’s very stilted and weird as the accomodating partner to have to censor large chunks of your life in conversation. I can see how it’d be annoying if someone’s past was all they ever talked about, but pretending you arrived in your current relationship as some…

I teach for a living, and I love Gordon Ramsey anyway because I find his shtick funny, but I’m always shocked at what a good teacher he is. Actually very patient, and thorough in his explanations. Such a contrast to his usual persona.

This reminds me of when I was a kid and my dad slept in only pyjama tops. God forbid there was a noise in the middle of the night somewhere. Godammit, I’m scarred for life.

Aren’t most divorces initiated by women? I think a lot of that has to do with women no longer being willing to waste their time on this shit. (Full disclosure: I was married young and divorced after 18 years; had a 9 (7 living together) year relationship where he revealed himself as an abusive psycho; remarried my…

I’m getting the impression that the woman killed had a spouse in the military as well.

My daughter worked escorting clients inside a clinic like this her senior year. Made me nervous then, I don’t think I’d be ok with that at all now. (As deeply as I respect her activism.)

Fusion Nails, the salon in that strip mall by the grocery store, in my favorite here in COS. My daughters were here for the holiday and our original plan was to go get our nails done there. The only reason we didn’t go was because one of them broke her laptop charger that morning, so we headed in the opposite…

https://www.splcenter.org/20100126/terro… Right back atcha.