I actually own a 9mm which I've shot at target ranges a bunch of times, taken apart and cleaned, etc etc and it still freaks me the fuck out after all this time. Maybe it should?

Yep, yep. It's one of the lines white supremacists trot out regularly.

Most of the assholes I've known in real life who squawk about "taking the country back" are using thinly-veiled code for "how did all these brown people get in?" I hope your mileage varies, because it's pretty fucking old and disheartening.

I've been in two marriages (well, one fortunately wasn't legal, but a "domestic partnership"). I did all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, child-rearing, some of the home repair, bill- and record-keeping, decorating, holiday- and social calendar organizing, sex-on-tap, etc etc in both....and none of that changed a whit…

Oh god, I'm sorry, but this sounds so familiar...I just got out of a nine-year relationships of this and six months later am finally giving up and starting therapy tomorrow to try and get some of the crap out of my head. If he's smelling insect repellent, he's also probably already monitoring ALL your online activity…

I have two daughters, ages 24 and 21. And yes, some of their behavior during their teen years was absolutely hideous (and frankly still can be). And I am far from the perfect parent. I always feel like these public humiliation methods of punishment are more about the parent's ego than they are about logical…

My ex also refused to have sex with his first wife the entire time she was pregnant because he was grossed out by THAT. I'm surprised she waited until months after the birth to file to divorce his narcissistic ass.

I always found this to be the case, but unfortunately was only ever, briefly, with one person who wasn't a whiny squeamish baby about it being just taboo.

I always found this to be the case, but unfortunately was only ever, briefly, with one person who wasn't a whiny squeamish baby about it being just taboo.

Or she's one of those women where it's really THAT important that she be cool with the guys. Which is disappointing, if that's the case.

Thank you for that truly horrifying realization right before I go to sleep.

It sounds kinda hokie-new-agey-blah-blah (I'm an atheist and tend to be pretty skeptical about a lot of things) but if you have access to any free/donation yoga (or can afford it otherwise), and feel so inclined, you might want to give it a try when you feel like stepping out a bit. I find it helps me to focus and…

Just try to tell yourself what you're feeling is normal. I'm trying to focus, and ignore everyone else. No one's thinking about other fish when it still feels like they got punched in the chest. Making yourself feel better is enough.

My cat's 15 and has seen me through a divorce and two breakups now. I'm quite terrified of having to cope when she dies. Best cat ever.

*I am the one who left, six months ago, and I am only now at the point where I feel ready to go to therapy so I can really actively start the process of moving on (my relationship was also abusive). This is my second time leaving though, so this time I was prepared better; it takes an incredibly long time to get over…

I REALLY wish we hadn't taken out any mutual debt. Even at the time, I didn't think it was a good idea. Now I'm stuck with a tie to this person/praying he honors his word to pay it (I had better credit, but it was solely his expense) for the next two-plus years, and we don't even speak. And if he chooses not to pay,…

Now that we've got the wimmens covered, perhaps we should also be letting the kiddos know how to do their part: "I knew exactly when the shouting was done and a hand was about to be raised – I also knew exactly when to insert a small body between the fist and her face, a skill no child should ever have to learn.…

"I'm not saying that women shouldn't take precautions, but it's laughable that men feel the need to tell us this when most of us know. We really do, instinctively, know. " Of course we do. That's actually how many abusers get away with their behavior for so long. Because their victims are terrified of/would do…

I remember reading the deposition from my ex's divorce, where he admitted slapping his ex-wife in one instance, repeated something cruel he claimed she said as justification (and yes, it did involve his dick), and then said he believed that, if it were a movie, people would have "applauded" when he slapped her. I…

It's chilling to me how some of these comments don't understand this. I was in a severely verbally and emotionally abusive relationship, where he would stand over and extremely close to me, preventing me from leaving the room while he basically hurled whatever verbal garbage he liked, spittle flying, for hours. I…