Every time I see Vanilla Ice, I always think about that moment on "The Surreal Life" when Adrienne Curry and someone else (Chyna?!) were rapping "Ice Ice Baby" at karaoke and he starts flipping out. Then you see Eric Estrada telling him to just sing along with them and just fucking CTFD, BRO. He totally got up, sang,…

Yo, are Pete's brothers like Pete? Because I will take one, please.

It's hard to say without knowing the specifics, but I think the most important thing is that they are made aware that this is gonna happen and are prepared for it, that they are free to express their thoughts and feelings without repercussions, and to make sure that you and their father are both there for them fully…

My mom and dad split when I was 10.

From the perspective of the child: never ever trash talk the other parent. Ever. Don't say anything negative about them at all. My mother still to this day has never said anything negative about my father (even though he was super crappy). He on the other hand used to constantly trash my mother to me and my sister…

My mom and dad split when I was younger and it actually was for the better. They were happier and under less stress and therefore better parents. I do not understand when people state they "do not believe in divorce". Because it greatly improved my life and not every situation is the same.

As a kid whose parents bickered and struggled for far too long before finally separating, I have to say that I felt so much better once they had stopped trying to 'make it work' and started living separately. They were both so much happier, more open with me and my brother, and were able to start doing things which…

You are going to be okay. So are your kids.

fwiw I'm in sort-of the same place as you are, only my daughter's dad and I previously split and got back together. I'm in a tough place because he's been the major financial provider, so I'm trying to figure out how to split / be financially stable / be a present mom / not have everything be a clusterfuck.

The one…

I'm so sorry you're going through that, and whatever you decide I'm sure you will be okay eventually.

So I mentioned earlier in the week that I'm looking into volunteering for RAINN's hotline in their D.C. office; well, I've been approved, and I'll be doing my in-person training in November. Hope I do well.

I haven't been through it myself but have experienced divorce as a child and seen many divorced families as teacher.

I have this friend Pete. He’s in the Sociology department at my university (I'm a fellow academic). We’ve taught on a few courses together. We’ve been friendly for a few years. We work together. My friends and his friends meet up at the pub next to campus every Friday night. He’s always been just my friend Pete. My…

I'm in a shitty place and contemplating a split from my husband (burner account made for this post). The horrifying, awful, gut-wrenching scream in my head is "my kids, my kids". Please... Anyone whose been through this, as either the adult getting divorced or the child whose parents did, tell me — what did you/your…

Let’s talk about THAT song. You know the one I’m talking about. The one that feels like an emotional gut-punch even just a few chords in. The one that leaves you an ugly-crying mess no matter how many times you hear it. It could be one that brings you back to a particularly sad time in your own life, or it could just…

All of these advantages do not happen for everyone. Sometimes, people have kids and still do not get their shit together.

This was very heartening to read...thank you. I know this can't be the case with every woman, but this puts a positive spin on a really scary life event.

*rolls eyes* She literally said in the piece that she was immature. Not everyone with no kids. Calm down.

Interesting. I could say the same things about my divorce. I think it's an issue of how an unexpected crisis can cause you to reevaluate your choices. If you're lucky, you're in a position where you can face everything and rise.

I second this motion.