Dyrim
Dyrim
Dyrim

I totally agree. I am a feminist. I often make choices that aren’t feminist. But what I don’t try to do is come up with some ridiculous explanation for how shaving my legs (for example) is really some feminist act because I do it for myself or whatever, as if the society I live in and the cultural expectations I have

No one likes being called out on being part of the system of patriarchy, which is why I think so many women always leap to explain why their decision to change their name Was Totally Feminist And Justified instead of just accepting that, in this particular interest, they just went with what was easier, socially.

I have had this exact conversation with my husband. I just don’t feel bad that I lose respect for those women. Sure, it’s the woman’s choice - but rarely is it considered a choice for men: they’re never grilled about keeping their names. And when the vast majority of women still adhere to this very sexist and

Is this something you have experienced? Because I have a hyphenated last name, since my mom and dad kept theirs. As such, we all three have different names. None of the things you mention were ever an issue. One time when we were traveling internationally someone asked us if we were related, but it was a passing

So much this. It’s really really frustrating everything this topic comes up, it’s a slew of rationalizations and never any introspection on why it’s only women who have these rationalizations every.single.time.

I fully acknowledge I’m being super judgy. But i just don’t think I’m wrong. There are always Reasons and Justifications about why an individual woman’s choice was totally removed from the patriarchal ramifications behind the tradition but notice how all of these exceptions that have nothing to do with tradition or

Not really. Name changes aren’t the norm in a lot of countries and parents do fine during international travel. In a lot of countries babies are on their mom’s passport until a certain age, and after that age the kid’s passport states their parents’ names. My best friend’s mom never changed her name, and lived in a

When my parents got married in the early 80s, both my parents kept their names. They later divorced, and when my dad remarried, he and his wife BOTH changed their names (into a new hybrid name). I recently got married myself, and the paperwork was a bit weird: The forms asked me for my mother’s maiden and married

Here’s a question, although I don’t know how it may or may not influence your decision:

This is the ‘problem’ I have with choice feminism. I agree that on an individual level everyone has the right to chose their path. I get concerned when looked at from the macro level and everyone is ‘choosing’ the same thing and it happens to be the patriarchal status quo.

Honestly, I still think it’s weird, in 2018, for one partner to take the other’s name and for one partner’s last name. I feel like name changes are unnecessary, and either both change their names or no one does. At least with same sex couples there isn’t any underlying patriarchal dynamic. That said, it would be

I despise Mrs. I work in a field where a lot of people have advanced degrees. I am Dr. I accept Ms. If you address me as Mrs, your email goes straight to spam.

Um, it’s more than a little judgemental, I fully recognise that. I wish I felt differently but I just don’t. There are always Reasons but you don’t think it’s funny that those reasons always end with women taking their husbands’ names? Lots of men hate their fathers, but seemingly not enough to result in enough men

I know there are always Reasons but it’s funny how it always ends up with the woman changing her name to her husband’s. This isn’t meant as a personal attack, I just do think that there are a lot of ways that society and relationships subconsciously influence women’s decisions and push them to stick with the

It is such a rare phenomenon that the paper refers to it as a “micropractice.”

So we aren’t going to talk about how he basically stated his disdain for Black women in that one episode of Atlanta? Not even a mention on the way he made that actress act bamboozled by the white girl dating a Black man? No run down on the ridiculous conclusions the Black woman came to why she might take issue with it

Time for us to start robbing some dudes and find out.

Isnt that a thing to ponder. That you read it and think “huh. At least they get 9 years” (edit: which was my first reaction too)

It’s always this shit. Violence against women spikes during soccer games in Latin America too. Some days I can’t believe we are just expected to co exist with these huge creatures who haven’t developed a prefrontal cortex. We’re basically living with snakes.

So if a wealthy middle-aged man was accosted on the street by six young men who demanded he come with them and then hand them his wallet and his car keys, if they didn’t actually hit him, then they wouldn’t be guilty of robbery?