I feel you. I just moved to a new apartment that's only a mile from where I work, but I end up taking the bus almost every day because of street harassment. It's not even a safety issue- the area is very safe during normal commute hours. Walking would be cheaper, more convenient, and healthier, but the catcalling and…

At some point the right of workers to find a job outweighs the merchant's desire to exert full control over the customer experience.

That's a false equivalency. Judging people based on innate characteristics like gender or race is wrong, but judging people based on their actions is a necessary and beneficial part of society. Actions can be changed, and they have real consequences for anyone whom the actor comes in contact with.

I was only talking about making hiring decisions based on race, which crosses a legal line. Hiring only attractive sales people if perfectly legal, since appearance is not a protected class. I don't think it's right, and in my experience customer service suffers when you hire any attractive teen that wanders past, but…

From your description, I don't think you're being paranoid at all. There are often huge differences between the corporate culture and the culture of any individual store (and newsletters and training videos are almost always more diverse than the organization producing them). If your store remains much less diverse…

I think it's a gray zone. I would say that making minor corrections is fine, especially if your students are submitting TOEFL scores or a transcript that includes grades for English classes. But if you're rewriting every other sentence, it crosses a line. Changing the content would also cross a line. But proofreading…

Part of it is definitely due to personal preference, but a lot of it is just cultural/regional differences. Different styles of hijab are popular in different places, same as with every other kind of garment.

It's only illegal if they're discriminating based on a factor that wouldn't prevent the employee from doing the job. So if you're hiring someone to play the role of a white character's grandma, you're allowed to only consider elderly white women, since a 30 year old black man is not capable of convincing the audience…

He didn't just talk shit, he shared her naked pics with his friends. She then shared his naked pics with the whole internet. So it's not proportionate, but it's a difference of scale, not of kind.

I'd guess they asked the mother if there was someone else who would be willing to take the boy for a time, and she named his sitters. Choosing who your kid stays with is probably better than having him sent to an unknown foster home.

I do judge, but still ended up in a wonderful relationship with a man who wears socks under his teva sandals, when he isn't wearing toe shoes. But he'll wear dress shoes when it's appropriate, and I live in flip-flops in the summer, so I can't really complain.

I've never had to be lifted at a primary care appointment, and I genuinely can't think of a situation where I would be. If I was too sick or injured to get onto an exam table, I'd go to the hospital.

Newsweek claimed he is, and if they lied, no one's proved it yet. I suspect they purposefully chose a very tall toddler with a very short mother, the better to shock people.

Do you have a citation for that 2% figure? I had heard that 30-40% of credit card holders pay off their balance in full every month, but am having trouble finding any hard evidence. 2% sounds really low to me. I pay my cards off at the end of every month, and I know that at least a quarter of my friends do the same.

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I think they're looking at it backwards. They found that children were less likely to survive to adulthood if their paternal grandmothers had similarly-aged children, while there was no effect, or a much lesser effect, if the child's maternal grandmother had young children. But maybe it's not the grandmothers'…

If you ask person A for permission to interact in a certain way with person B, you are implying that person B cannot to be trusted to make their own decisions. If person B is a child and person A is their parent, that's fine. If they are romantic partners, it is completely unacceptable.

If you can sit down with the finished work and come up with a consistent set of rules that describes the magic used in the story, then that's fine. That's great, actually. But a lot of times, if the author doesn't set some kind of rules to begin with, they won't be able to draw up a cohesive set of rules without…

If I'm dodging calls from a specific person, I'll let it ring. But usually I'm ignoring a call because I need to focus on something else or because taking the call would be rude. In that case I'd rather do a clear 'ignore', so that the caller knows that I know they're trying to contact me and that I'll get back to…

I second (or third) the OKCupid recommendation. I think the mainstream sites are almost always better than the specialized ones, unless you're looking for something really, really specific. There are a lot of people who are fine with or prefer BBW types, but who aren't going to use a special site because they're also…