Wool socks. I buy lots and lots and lots of wool socks. Stipey, spotted, solid, polka-dotted, thigh high, knee high, calf high, ankle high... I buy socks.

Of course we should all be perfectly straightforward, in a perfect world. But we don't live in that world. We live in a world where, as I said, we get heavily penalized for that behavior. HEAVILY. (See many of the stories on this thread. Or read everyday sexism tumblr.) Until we change the world, women are going to…

You know what? I was going to tag out of this thread too but I've had a second thought.

Yes, of course. It's up to women to police men's unwanted advances and say stop. it's not at all ever men's job to realize when and where it's OK to do that. Yup. That's exactly it. /sarcasm

I refer you to Mr. Scalzi's "An Incomplete Guide on How Not to be a Creeper."

I do have a personal bias towards harder nos (aka low context). But that's just because of where I live and the subculture I hang out in. I try not to let it bias me so I'm sorry if that bias came out in the comment. I did try to keep it out.

It works how I say it works. I'm under no obligation to do anything in the way that you or anyone else needs. I'm really really under no obligation to pry open anyone's brain and pour in education in bite sized pieces. If the OP wants to learn about something, the forums of a Gawker site are a good starting point but…

I am happy to help in the way I best can — which is to refer you to an expert. I'm a mom who thinks about feminism, not an expert on relationships. That said, I know exactly where you can find an expert that will help you a thousand times better than I can. Read CaptainAwkward.

You're absolutely right. It's also a disparity between cultures — what's merely polite in New England would be abominably rude in South Carolina. What's polite in Japan is baffling in the U.S. What's reasonable between colleagues is unreasonable to a boss. And, to tie it back to the article, what's merely rude in a…

It's a great line and very true. It's from Hild by Nicola Griffin. Excellent book which I commend to you. (Review on io9)

I'm so sorry for your friend. I've heard a thousand stories like that and I have my own, too. But! BUT! There are other strategies, they are just LOOOOONG term. We have to create anti-harassment policies in our spaces, and teach men not only that "no means no" but that you shouldn't have sex unless you get an…

You'll have to forgive me, TREB, if I don't believe you. For this reason: I typed "Men really do understand nonverbal no" into google and the third hit I got was a Yes Means Yes article about the study Just Say No? The Use of Conversation Analysis In Developing A Feminist Perspective On Sexual Refusal. The summary of…

Please feel free. I'm pretty sure I didn't get through to the OP, but I'm happy to help in any way I can.

Please feel free to go look the studies up by yourself. They exist out there, easy to find as a Google search. If you care, you'll take the time to look them up.

I think I can explain.

Lately, mostly I do physical therapy. The exercises are dull and repetitive but keep my shoulder from degenerating (yay getting old). It takes twenty minutes a day, which is just about enough time to watch a sitcom with the commercials edited out.

I had NO IDEA that I wasn't the only one with this fetish. My first serious BF has an ass like a peach, hair like a sunset, and wore his dress shirts rolls up to just below the elbow. I was obsessed with his forearms and how his watch sat on the width of his bones and the play of the muscles under the pale skin inside…

I do it. I have a chest freezer because I cook a lot, which means I have plenty of room for cookies. In the holiday season, I make a batch of dough pretty much every day so I can have slice-and-bake cookies whenever I need them (using pretty much the method Charbucks describes.)

I spend money on my kid's food for the same reason I spend money on my food. Because it tastes good and we enjoy it. Feeding escargot to a six year old is only a waste if she's been raised on chicken fingers. My kid's never HAD chicken fingers. She loves sophisticated and complex cuisine just as much as I do. Her…

This is interesting because (as a parent) I mostly feel like we (as a family) are subjected being stuck in the "family friendly" ghetto, where the only thing to eat is chicken fingers. My daughter isn't perfect but she's much better behaved than many of the people at nice restaurants I've visited. I get glares, dirty…