And then there are the people who have vaginismus/vulvodynia where even inserting a finger is painful beyond words, but still could have a broken hymen due to sports. If you have vaginismus this type of proceedure is not just uncomfortable or humiliating, but painful enough to send you screaming and sore for days…

When I was about 13 I was invited to a party. When my ride showed up my parents decided last minutes for whatever reason I couldn’t go. (I’m sure I was an asshole as most 13 year olds were) I cried and kicked and screamed all night about the whole ordeal.

9 or 10. I was a very early bloomer, wearing adult clothing sizes by 3rd grade and a bra by 4th. I am the same height as I was when I was 10 years old, 5’8”. Anyway I was getting off the bus by my house, don’t remember what I was wearing but it doesn’t matter. Creepy neighbor says something like “Hey there girl.” but…

Who would they be trying to impress, by the time they're past 30?

I was this kid. My parents didn't have another kid due to lots of reasons. You know what? As an adult I am happy and don't regret not having siblings. I also cried for weeks when I didn't get a pony or our Disney trip was cancelled. I somehow survived my great suffering by my parents being able to put more financial…

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Except some asexual people do enjoy sex with people. They enjoy the emotional intimacy/physical sensations just like anyone else would. They just don't look at the person they are going to be having sex with as sexually attractive, but they have the urge to have sex and hey, they like the person so why not?

Aromantic people can occur in any sexual orientation.

I guess we should change marriage vows to be "in sickness or in health unless the sickness makes sex painful which inconveniences me"

If she is unsure she just needs to leave then; he deserves someone who won't leave his side even if he has medical conditions that he cannot control. Again I don't care if they have a non-monogamous relationship; but her answers are so wishy washy it more or less seems like she doesn't wan to admit on a public forum…

I was just bringing up a point no one was mentioning. Like good for them for discussing things, but I would honestly love to hear his side of the story. As someone who has a medical condition that inhibits sex we can often times feel cornered into agreeing into an more open relationship in fear of loosing what we do…

"As of right now, it has been over four years since my husband has been able to perform oral sex on me. And it hurts and builds resentment when you turn to the person lying in bed next to you, try to initiate sex, and you get rejected. Over and over again. Then that resentment spills into other areas. "

I have no problem with non-monagmous relationships. It's the cheating on her part because she couldn't get sex due to a medical condition I have a problem with.

I am seeing so many people praise this person with just a side remark on how she shouldn't of cheated. Can we discuss why she cheated???

My Biggest Lie: I am straight instead of asexual and that I in fact enjoy sex.

As an asexual with vaginismus my entire reproductive system is useless.

This is a great introductory article for sure. I was ready for the typical article about how it's a psychological condition cured by therapy , but you really described the complexity of the situation so well. If you were to also go forward with another vaginismus article I would also advise that while the majority of…

It's amazing how doctors can go to so many years of school, yet know nothing.

I came here to respond that my gyno told me to "just have a baby" to cure my symptoms. When I told him that people have reported vaginismus after childbirth he told me not to read things on the internet, trust the medical professionals. I never went back.

I write an advice blog for people with vaginismus. I saw the title of this article, ready to hate it for all the misinformation that most articles have. This one is spot on and very accurate. I applaud it. I do wish it discussed more the difficulty of having to work with gynecologists, since many of them dismiss…