I forgot to read the post wherein the advice columnist came to the comments and disagreed with me. Feel free to re-read my prior comments so you can fully understand why the letter writer is in the wrong. I highly doubt you’ll be able to apply the logic, as I think you’re kind of an idiot. Wait, my apologies: you’re a…

But I’m not wrong. At all.

I didn’t miss anything. Stop being an enabler of shitty passive-aggressive behavior.

I’ve had plenty of quality conversations and even meetups come from a basic “hey”. Perhaps people should be less judgemental about the first fucking message? Not everybody is going to deliver some kickass memorable opening line. I hate how people set this imaginary bar of standards before anything is even sent.

I never said it was bad if you didn’t respond for a GOOD reason. The letter writer’s is not one of those. She’s blowing off people then wondering why they would get mad. Yours are very much reasonable.

I didn’t even condone attacking anyone, I just said it’s an asshole thing to do by matching someone (which shows a finite degree of interest to begin with) then ignore them when they try to start a conversation. And it goes without saying if the guy is being lewd or a jackass to begin with he doesn’t deserve a response

These are the best you can come up with? “Saw a deal-breaker” (hit unmatch then), “accidentally liked you” (you would have to be mentally challenged to actually do this), et cetera. It’s difficult explaining things to people who’d rather enable bad behaviors.

2018: the year of enabling passive-aggressive behavior

No, it’s the matching with the added-in lack of effort whatsoever to have manners and blow off people. Dunno what app you’re referring to but OKCupid definitely requires both people to swipe right for anything to happen. For some people, this is the only avenue they have to meet people or to have the courage to talk…

P.S. nobody is claiming someone owes anyone anything, just have some fucking manners and not string someone along/use them as a backup plan.

No one is claiming someone “owes” anyone anything, I’m not being unreasonable when I recommend that one just have some manners and unmatch someone if you have no intent of taking them seriously as a person. It’s the respectful thing to do.

Then don’t string someone along by matching them if you have no intent on talking to them. Using someone as a fallback is horseshit.

She claims she is getting bombarded on an app wherein you cannot send more than one message unless you respond or like back. So this is how I know she is full of shit. She responds or likes back, which gets someone thinking there’s a shot at establishing something, then ghosts. And plays the victim.

If you’re going to ignore someone, or are “more interested in someone else”, don’t string someone along and keep them as a fallback. That is bullshit no matter who does it.

No, I’m doing quite well. Because I’m talking to someone who responds to messages and understands the behavior I mentioned above is horseshit. Thanks for the childish insult! You’re probably not responding to your matches because you’re attacking me instead.

You are aware of how these apps work right? You can see how not responding to someone after matching (which means there is an initial interest in things like conversation) is rude, toxic, and hurtful? Just making sure here buddy. If you’re not going to respond, just unmatch them, don’t be a child and leave someone on…

If you’re sitting there reading messages, you likely have the time to respond. Not doing so is rude and even a bit hurtful. If you’re not going to respond, don’t bother swiping to begin with.

Anybody who matches with someone on a dating site then doesn’t respond to messages is toxic. Even if the message is a “hey”.

Your comment should be pinned and possibly even added in to the column itself as an addendum. If #2 is getting “bombarded” by anyone multiple times on OKC, she obviously matched the person. So she’s blowing people off then complaining when they get frustrated and lash out. This is her fault. I find it hard to…

Get rid of the “ball needs to hit the ground before the next pitch” rule since A) it clearly favored Harper in the finals and more importantly B) nobody enforces it. If there’s a rule in place, it should be enforced.