Chem PhD. Still in a full load of coursework with multiple homework sets due every week, TAing several sections of a lab class, and needing to get research done, too. I've been planning my wedding on top of it all. Grading lab reports as we speak...

Keeping in mind, of course, that I still study, do homework, read papers, etc. while I'm at home as well, so 70 hrs on campus is more than a 70 hr week.

Yes, my fiance who takes every shift that is asked of him to the point of having a grand total of two days off a month, and has been passed over for multiple promotions that his direct supervisors have recommended him for and denied raises, is totally only doing the absolute minimum. I'm sorry that we're only working…

Need advice. How do you cope with needing to work harder, but being exhausted just by what you're doing now? I should be on campus at least 70 hrs per week, and I've been getting tired after about 65. I used to be able to handle 80 in undergrad, so I'm not sure what's wrong with me. These are the normal hours everyone…

Yeah, I'd say my experiences are pretty different from someone born in the early 1980s. Being a kid on 9/11, seeing the second plane hit after your teacher turns on the news, is pretty defining for what I'd say is my generation. I was the kind of kid who always aced the standardized tests, but realized it was because…

Isn't there a lot of overlap there? I was in 6th grade when NCLB started, so I was still quite affected by it despite also being a millenial (born 1990).

So is it also bad if I've just been drinking coffee instead of eating today? I had a 150 calorie bowl of soup, and the rest has been coffee.

Yeah, I wouldn't want to go to some place like Vegas anyway. I'm a grad student and my MOH is still seeking employment after graduating last summer. Ain't nobody got time (or money) for that. The only reason I'm having as extravagant of a wedding as I am is that my parents are decently well off and offered to pay for…

Do people actually do this? I'm just going to have a day at the beach (one about half an hour from the wedding venue). If someone tries to give me lingerie or brings anything phallic-shaped or tries to make me look at other guys when they know I've never actually been attracted to anyone but my fiance, I will not be…

There's not a single place in the world where I could hold my wedding that the majority of the guests and bridal party live. I'm going to have it in my home town because it's my home town and my immediate family all still lives there, and it's less than a two hour drive from my fiance's home town. But most relatives,…

I'm wearing my mom's dress. It cost $150 to alter to fit my size and make a few other adjustments that I wanted. I think she got it for $200 in the 80's when they got married, so the dress is up to a total of $350 now.

Keep in mind that it's not polite to invite someone to the shower without inviting them to the wedding. She may well be inviting you knowing that you're unlikely to be able to make it to the wedding itself but may still want you to be able to come to the shower. I'm having my wedding in my home state, where both my…

I don't like the way it's worded to say "real" either, because every woman is a real woman regardless of what size they are, but I didn't get the impression that the article was using it to mean overweight, just closer to average. I probably did read too much into your comment, though, so fair enough.

There must be some pretty hardcore grade inflation there, then. In a lot of my classes, 80% was required for an A-, and about half of people still got D's or F's because the average will always be in the 40s or 50s or possibly lower.

My dad's health insurance has a neat program where they measure your BMI one year and then the next to compare. If it's in the healthy range (whether it was the first year or not), you get a substantial discount, something like $500 for the year. If it's outside of the healthy range both times but you've lost 5% of…

It's only 2 seasons, but Better Off Ted is awesome.

I don't know if 9/11 itself is the reason. I think maybe just increases in technology. My middle school definitely had IDs from the time I got there, and 9/11 happened about a month in to 6th grade for me. I think my elementary school had them, as well. They're really useful for scanning when you buy lunch, check out…

I graduated from high school in 2008, and my middle school and high school, both public, had IDs. I think elementary school did as well, but don't remember for sure. You used them for buying lunch, checking out library books, etc.

I got my mattress in exchange for a pair of shoes. After we moved, we got a $25 sofa from a thrift store and consider it an upgrade. Our table we also got from the thrift store. My fiance's parents got us a new mattress and it's super nice and I can definitely tell the difference in my sleep, but other than I see no…

Yeah, seriously. All of my furniture (sofa, recliner, etc.) was from stuff people had left behind at the dumpster. I tried to donate them when I was moving because they weren't worth carrying across multiple states, but they saw them and said they weren't good enough quality to be donated. Thanks, nothing like knowing…