While it's true women do get a break when it comes to lacking a personality, I feel that it's only when paired with guys lacking complete self awareness of what they want who like treating women as objects (whether blatant or not). At the end of it, women are more likely going to be judged on if they smile or not,…

Oh god, I'm so sorry you've had to deal with that on numerous occasions. It's a bad habit of mine. Basically I agree with your points, but I feel that men are gauged *typically* by their achievements rather than their looks because of male dominated society blah blah blah. It's unfortunate (and as a short, asian man…

Sooo now Asian Men are frogs? While everyone deserves happiness this sounds an awful lot like entitlement. Look at the statistics. In this country Asian Men are considered bottom of the barrel when it comes to interracial relationships. That doesn't stop me from getting up after striking out. It still fucking sucks.…

Who said you were? That's assuming you think every Asian guy is gonna reject you, which means you believe all Asian Men are the same. That simple.

I agree. I just feel a lot of times I need to consider why I'm saying/thinking something and how that applies. I guess trying to cover my bases.

Ehhh, I'm not sure if I would go that far. I know a lot of people take issue with how the discourse is done, but as a straight male I understand my privilege and I should be able to put up with even a fraction of what women deal with throughout their lives.

The brush can't paint that finely, so probably not.

Oh no, I totally get it. But as a straight Asian Male, who am I to say anything in this position really? I don't care for this article but I don't know Phoenix and I don't feel there's enough evidence to call her a racist. The misogynist asian man certainly exists but this is a fucked up article and there's really…

I agree with a lot of what you said but try naming Asian Men that are American, not dead, and don't reinforce stereotypes. We actually exist.

So I'm also guessing you watched a few TV programs you didn't like then quit TV all together as well?

Sexless nerdy motherfuckers? Except the last few decades we really haven't had a problem seeing jewish men having romantic relationships on screen. Jewish characters in tv and cinema don't have to be cast as the Alpha Male in order to be considered a love interest.

I agree with your frustration but to consider the other viewpoint, it's true that as men we have it easy as far as body image. The inequality is obvious and I think we should be able to put up with it. I'm not particularly cool with it in terms of things we can't change (height, ethnicity) but I understand their…

Right. White dudes can look like Michael Cera, Seth Rogen, or even Adam Driver but we have to look like models to even be considered.

I don't disagree with you there. I just feel that with such a rare opinion as those, I can deal with it in this context. It might verge on the derailing but it's certainly not reinforcing any negative stereotypes, or really any others for that matter.

I think the difference is one is being clearly exclusive. A woman that doesn't find asian men attractive? Congrats, you're in the majority of Americans! Maybe it's just me but I don't find it fetishization when they're providing examples of how we CAN be considered sexual prospects. These sides don't share equal…

Except David Choe isn't Japanese.

Considering your name and avatar, I would expect nothing less than morbid curiosity! Indulge!

Exactly. I've had some crazy attractive women come up to me, I'd feel like "No way can this be happening. No way can she find me attractive" then she drops the Asian fetish bomb. " I love asian guys. I'm probably more asian than you! Do you ever watch Vampire School Cutie Robot Power Cheerleaders?" It's fucking…

Not at all. But just know that dating interaccially doesn't absolve you from being a racist. We're people, not a fucking membership pass. As I said to another commenter, it's like how misogynists will still date women? Regardless, get on with your happy,engaged self!

I mean, the pendulum swings both ways so it's hardly surprising. It just kind of makes me hang my head when your average person sees this article and the comments and says "See! Even they think it!" I definitely think I shared some of this overcompensating asshole behavior when I was younger but does it matter? Yes,…