Well, please let me know, I’m always interested in sexuality studies. I’m familiar with some on the negative impact of porn addiction, but that’s distinct from typical porn consumption, and closer to the negative impacts of addiction generally.

Honestly, I’ve wondered for a while whether they have an open relationship. She just seems so chill about all the scandals, and he clearly has had other partners but just as clearly respects her, and the most likely explanation to me is that they’re ok with it.

I agree, rape porn isn’t progressive and empowering (though some porn can be), but that doesn’t mean it’s harmful. It’s partially a reflection of rape culture, but it’s only a symptom, the rape culture is what we should really be dealing with.

A lifetime of cultural conditioning to be agreeable, supportive, and to not fall into the “nagging wife” stereotype?

So, I get that it’s tempting to laugh at the poor rich people with their nanny and their maid, but why are we mainly bringing those up as reasons she shouldn’t complain?

Genuinely curious, how do we know all porn is bad for women? Are there psychological/sociological studies that find this? The only data I’m familiar with is that there’s a reverse correlation between porn consumption and rape, though of course correlation=/= causality.

I have difficulty imagining actual ambiguity about whether you want to avoid pregnancy.

You won’t believe this, but women tend to have friends who are also women. And we talk to each other about our sex lives. Here’s how many women I’ve met who really dig the idea of rape and find it a thrill: 0.

No offense, but what you think isn’t really relevant because we have actual psychological data on this subject, the research of which was conducted and written and published by both women and men, many of whom are also feminists.

Obviously I have no idea of the thought process behind the original poster, but I’d guess she googled the study and kept trying links until she got a full copy. Google links directly to the PDFs, so it’s unlikely she navigated to it from within the site. If that’s the case, then literally the only indication is the…

To be clear, no one’s defending Nazis. But it’s important to remember that this website is not the source for this article, the source is a 2008 Journal of Sex Research. Calling a hosting website the “source” would be like calling a library a source.

Honestly I’m not an expert in Native American culture, but offhand I’d guess you’re fine?

I’d say it probably depends on the culture, and it’s worth remembering that there’s a spectrum between sacred and normal. I’m not well versed in Indian culture, but I did have an Indian friend in college who lent me a sari when I didn’t have a costume, but she did advise me not to wear a bindi (the forehead…

I’m talking to an asshole who, intentionally or not, is making plenty of perfectly healthy people think there’s something wrong with them because of what gets them off. I’m hoping that reading my comments will counteract all the shame our society puts on them because of their kinks. Shame which you are contributing…

Real talk, since you’re telling people they need psychological help: have you ever studied psychology? Because I’m not a doctor, but I’ve studied it and TA-ed for Psychology of Sexuality at my university, and in my professor’s experience (she’s an actual therapist and sex-therapist), people’s shame about these sorts…

Frankly, given how many people in this comment section you’ve either told or implied that they should talk to a psychologist about their rape fantasies, it seems hypocritical to me that when someone sends you actual psychological research on the topic, and is kind enough to find one of the few free copies (maybe the…

Oh please. No one’s defending Nazis, but if you’d looked at the article you’d have seen that there’s no reason to discredit it. It was produced in a respected university and published in a respected medical journal, and has nothing to do with neo-Nazis. Having spent 30 seconds on google, she probably used that link…

THANK YOU SO MUCH for bringing actual data into this.

If you really want to start an argument about semantics, fine. “Souls being crushed” etc isn’t the definition of rape, it’s the consequences of rape. The definition of rape is “sex without consent,” which some people (even some feminists) are turned on by. Is it odd and confusing for some people to consent to a…

I’ve never seen any of his stuff, not a fan of his, but let’s remember that lots of feminists, both men and women, have rape fantasies. There’s a significant difference between actual rape (sex without consent) and anything 2 (or more) consenting adults do, even if it involves safe words and restraints.