I’d say it probably depends on the culture, and it’s worth remembering that there’s a spectrum between sacred and normal. I’m not well versed in Indian culture, but I did have an Indian friend in college who lent me a sari when I didn’t have a costume, but she did advise me not to wear a bindi (the forehead…

I’m talking to an asshole who, intentionally or not, is making plenty of perfectly healthy people think there’s something wrong with them because of what gets them off. I’m hoping that reading my comments will counteract all the shame our society puts on them because of their kinks. Shame which you are contributing…

Real talk, since you’re telling people they need psychological help: have you ever studied psychology? Because I’m not a doctor, but I’ve studied it and TA-ed for Psychology of Sexuality at my university, and in my professor’s experience (she’s an actual therapist and sex-therapist), people’s shame about these sorts…

Frankly, given how many people in this comment section you’ve either told or implied that they should talk to a psychologist about their rape fantasies, it seems hypocritical to me that when someone sends you actual psychological research on the topic, and is kind enough to find one of the few free copies (maybe the…

Oh please. No one’s defending Nazis, but if you’d looked at the article you’d have seen that there’s no reason to discredit it. It was produced in a respected university and published in a respected medical journal, and has nothing to do with neo-Nazis. Having spent 30 seconds on google, she probably used that link…

THANK YOU SO MUCH for bringing actual data into this.

If you really want to start an argument about semantics, fine. “Souls being crushed” etc isn’t the definition of rape, it’s the consequences of rape. The definition of rape is “sex without consent,” which some people (even some feminists) are turned on by. Is it odd and confusing for some people to consent to a…

I’ve never seen any of his stuff, not a fan of his, but let’s remember that lots of feminists, both men and women, have rape fantasies. There’s a significant difference between actual rape (sex without consent) and anything 2 (or more) consenting adults do, even if it involves safe words and restraints.

I actually make a cranberry sauce, that people seem to like (I always get cranberry-sauce-duty), where the secret ingredient is finely chopped celery. I can’t normally tolerate celery, but chopped fine in a sour/sweet dish it’s almost more like an herb with a crunchy texture.

You’re not wrong, but you’re still missing the point.

It’s been a while so I don’t know if you’re still looking for suggestions, but I’ve been impressed with Violet Vixen. I only have one corset (though I’ve worn a couple in the past for cons), and it’s from them, and it’s perfect. They take a little while, but everything’s made-to-order. Most cost around $100-$150, but…

We are discussing this: Whether it is “wrong” and “cruel” for someone to have sex with a person who cannot consent because it will be rape (and likely be traumatic).

Obviously this is an extremely personal choice, but for myself, if my only options were risk rape or be celibate, I’d prefer the former by a wide margin.

It’s a reference to the fact that “rape” (as well as “consent”) has had countless definitions, precisely because of this sort of thing. For example, some women (myself included) enjoy waking up to sex, and some consider that “rape” because an unconscious person can’t consent. I recognize that it’s important that this…

He cannot give consent, so any sex with him is rape. Period.

This is a really, really difficult issue.

So, obviously lube is a good and necessary thing, but in terms of incorrect sex advice, this seems pretty benign to me. I used to be able to self-lubricate after sufficient foreplay, now I’m on a medication where that’s no longer the case, but frankly I don’t mind anyone telling straight men that they need to spend…

As part of a couple who won’t hesitate to have 7-10 drink each when celebrating, and who walk or take public transit home: Please shut up. Servers are not your mom, or your police. It’s up to the individual to be responsible for themselves, and that includes knowing how you’re getting home and whether you need to be…

Sulley would be much better cuddle material, but personally, I’m not into that much hair.