Also, I'm very sorry about what happened to you and your son.

I fully respect your right to share or not share as much as you are comfortable with. The point is, we're not enemies. Victims of abuse can come together to make a difference instead of pitting ourselves against each other.

We can condemn all abusive monsters, instead of distracting ourselves by condemning women for…

I feel like we might be arguing against different things, but maybe not. What I'm saying is... in a dating profile, if you've described what you're looking for in a partner and filtered out for things like mismatched religious beliefs, political leanings, etc. why would you need to filter race on top of that?

Guess what? You can calm the fuck down because she actually did mention that men are victims of domestic abuse in this very article.

Also, helpful hint: if you truly care about ALL forms of domestic violence, you can add your experiences and relevant statistics to the discussion instead of dismissing the conversation…

I'm clearly not advocating dismissing someone's religion, culture or race. But what I'm saying is that just because someone is a different race doesn't mean you can assume anything about them. And you also can't assume that they are incompatible partners. What good is it to dismiss entire populations of people based…

He was definitely a little softer.

Not that muscle tone is an indication of athletic prowess, either. I apologize for being glib.

Sorry! Should have clarified with "Parks and Rec" Chris Pratt. :)

I feel like you're purposely missing my point. I would never tell someone that their race or ethnicity or culture is not important to them if is. But it's not necessarily at odds with what is important to me. I prefer to evaluate people based on what they share with me rather than assuming I know everything about them…

I totally see what you're saying and I'm not offended. It's easy to stick to your ideals when your back's not against the wall, right?

I never said to date someone who has drastically core values from you. I said that race is not indicative of traits and values. If I'm ever single again, I'll have a much better chance at a healthy and satisfying relationship with a liberal-minded, agnostic or atheist person of colour, than a conservative white man…

Like... dolphins?

Absolutely!

I have! Thanks for your interest. :D

I don't even know how to reply to this succinctly. I find our current state of affairs depressing as fuck, and I'm terrified of what the world might look like in the next 10, 20, 50 years. I suspect you are (but desperately hope that you're not) right, and will do what I can to prevent it from happening—which…

Sure. But I ask myself why I like those things, why they get me hot. And I don't dismiss hundreds of thousands of people because of something that should be a preference, but not a hard and fast rule. For example, I was always into slightly taller, very slim but muscular men. Really got my motor running, you know?…

I agree that we hear a lot more about everything. I guess I'm thinking about how we seem to be regressing in some larger-scale ways, like in education, reproductive rights, etc.

Race isn't something that is inherently good or bad, or indicative of any other traits or values. Hard to see how sexual preference based on race could be anything but harmful.

Intriguing hypothesis!

I haven't read it in 13 years and I still remember it. Absolutely my favourite and the most memorable Onion piece I've read.