Thank you for this powerful and thought-provoking piece. You touched on what bothers me about this moment (and also bothered me during #MeToo), and how victims of oppression are expected to perform their trauma in public to move any change forward, while perpetrators - apart from a few sacrificial scapegoats - stay…

PLEASE don’t give Netflix any more ideas, they’ve been wilding ever since Tiger King took off. People are clutching enough pearls over human blowjobs in this movie, add horny dinosaurs to the mix and their heads will explode.

Is that the one with 3D dicks flying in your face? I briefly considered clicking once when I was high, but...no.

I don’t think we can even parse out the ‘nature vs. nurture’ conversation in a society where violence against women is constantly eroticized in every media format, while women themselves are shamed for expressing desire or displaying sexual agency. I know it’s nice to pretend our fantasies exist in a vacuum and our…

...what in the 1980s problematic bodice-ripping Fabio starring romance novel covers is this shit?

See what burns me up about this is ALL OF THESE ISSUES are common to the adoption process. Adopted children aren’t little angels brimming with saintly gratitude; they are human beings who feel fear, confusion and resentment just like anyone else would if they were taken far away from everything they knew to live with…

Yeah nah, I remember people having problems with their gimmick when it first came out. It’s hard to take this “change” seriously nearly a decade after they should’ve addressed it.

I don’t find it shocking at all that a publication accused of toxic racism from the top down only deigns to publish Black people’s stories when they’re fawning all over white people.

xoJane had some jaw-droppingly misogynistic commentary too!

Yeah that’s my issue too! If they already had a lot of Black content, this wouldn’t be such an issue. But the fact that their ONLY attempt to address Black issues focuses on a white man feels very “All Lives Matter” of them.

See that’s the issue with representation though. If Refinery29 was already putting out lots of diverse content, this might just blend in with all their other dumb shallow stuff. But if this their only attempt to represent Black perspectives - and it sounds like it is - the fact that they chose a superficial meet-cute…

This has been happening with a lot of local businesses where I live. They’ll release bland BLM support statements and the comment sections are filled with employees blowing the whistle on their racist business practices. It’s fun to watch. Everyone is done with meaningless lip service lately. And speaking of which, is…

How is that relevant to the fact that he is black?

There absolutely needs to be a law that once you “rehome” one child you should never be able to adopt again, and current biological and adopted children in your home should be monitored by authorities. It shows an attitude toward children and their needs that is very disturbing.

This rehoming BS is way too common among the fundie Christian mommy blogger crowd. Collecting and trading children with serious needs like Pokemon, and then any mistreatment is excused - including rehoming, abuse, neglect, experimental therapies etc. - because the parents are “good people” who are “introducing these…

It’s not even a few sympathetic cops, it’s a whole strategic PR effort. The cops in New Orleans knelt and hugged protesters on Tuesday night and tear gassed the same protesters on Wednesday night. Tonight they have military backup and are planning to detonate sound weapons. The kneeling is just a weak attempt to…

Yeah, she tried to flex and got shut down by her neighbors. No need to apologize or explain, we all saw the exchange and she came out looking foolish.

Yaaaasss please spill !

Does this surprise anyone? I’ve been hearing rumors about her being a monstrous asshole since that show started.

Yeah, her “I was scared” excuse is such transparent bullshit. If a woman gets in a confrontation in a secluded area with a strange man who frightens her, her survival instinct will tell her to leave the area as quickly as possible. Scream and run, if need be. What she did was the opposite: moved aggressively into his…