I’m a dude. I have a relatively cushy white-collar job. If I approached my boss and said “hey, I’m feeling burned out, can I take a month long sabbatical?” he would laugh in my face. If I approached my boss and said “hey, my (fictional, nonexistent) wife is having a baby,” he would happily offer me at least a month of…

Oh my god you sound like a raging bitch.

DETAILS!!!!

Oh yes, totally waiting for the adults to show up. I panic when I realize that I’m the adult in certain situations.

In Grammer’s defense, he’s probably never spoken to a woman as old as Camille before.

I kinda get what Katie is saying. I am early 40s, and I still wonder when the adults are going to show up and help me out with life stuff.

‘Gross in Real Life’ would have been a much better title for his book.

Camille needs to change her thought process to- “I just have to accept that I had my children with a guy who’s a shallow asshole. It’s not our fault he’s an asshole, he just is one. The sooner we accept that the sooner we can all move on with our lives. His loss when he gets older and all of a sudden wants a…

Not a lot can happen between that mid-day Matlock marathon and your four o’clock dinner date at Luby’s I guess.

You have never taken the NYC subway system, have you?

Things gentlemen do: keep their word. Other things gentlemen do: keep a civil tongue and refrain from strong language in the presence of those who may not appreciate it. Such as in a public forum. I’m glad you have one area covered, as you apparently are so busy being on time that you have no time left to practice the…

Thank you for being so flexible.

As a man, I feel utterly unable to comment on this situation - nobody has ever tried to rape me, or made unwelcome physical advances on me (well, a drunk girl, but she was so ineffective I don’t take it seriously) - but I might be able connect two dots, which may be useful to somebody, so I feel it’s my duty to put it…

Jesus. I'm so sorry.

I love the term “bodily autonomy.”

Anytime sexual activity is directed one way or another by perceived threat of “repercussions” it's not healthy for either of you. I'm sorry you're going thru this.

I know that my opinion is quite possibly neither welcome nor warranted, as a man, but if I was with a girl and she was responding like that, I would very much feel like was a rapist and an utterly deplorable piece of shit for even taking the conversation in that direction, never mind the actual ACT.

What an excellent article. I came here expecting some drunken consensual encounter turning into regret. It was much more interesting to read of a story of essentially being badgered into unwilling sex to the point of allowing it by not putting up a fight.

Consent is not a not-no. It is an enthusiastic yes.

Enthusiastic consent or GTFO