It’s like Tryhard and Thirst had a baby.

As someone who was a victim services worker I can tell you that women of all ages, sizes, shapes, sexualities, gender presentations, and levels of attractiveness experience violence. Your friend sounds like an asshole.

Please keep speaking out. I love you, stranger, and want all the best for you.

There is an excellent post in The Hairpin (I think by Anne Helen Peterson who write the Buzzfeed piece Hanner is upset about) about Tippi Hedren and how after enduring Hitchcock’s abuse and being terrorized by birds she opened a big cat sanctuary and spent the rest of her life surrounded by birds greatest predators.

How was I asking for it when I was asleep in my home? Why am I expected to shoulder the blame of my male roommate deciding to rape me because he was drunk, horny and came home alone. And people  still want me to speak out? Im suffering in silence and pain because i somehow asked for it. Because i am female. Fuck you…

Sister?

Ugh late capitalism suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucks.

I guess you could say they’re Scientology’s LAPDogs.

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My sister posted pictures of some enslaved African migrants and my brain shut the fuck down. I’ve been sleep for a few hours, only now waking up in a world where images from blood memory are vivid color. There was a young man with a sore on his leg. It was weeping blood and he was sweating profusely and I keep…

Pretty in Pink never worked for me. She lived in a house with her dad. It had a nice lawn around it and she had her own room. Her dad had a car. She drove her own car to school. She never seemed to be hurting for money in terms of food or household necessities. I very much get that kids want to have what their peers…

It’s really privileged to call this poor. They own their own house and can afford college and private school. No one takes the bus to work.

God, this is so amazing to me, to see so many of us finally supporting each other and coming forward about harassment. I suffered greatly at the hands of men during my early years in media 45 years ago. Back then other women supported my court case( former employer sued me for my unemployment benefits. I won after…

Are you a woman?

Beautifully said, both of you. It’s exhausting, and it’s an energy expenditure that men just don’t have to think about. When they walk alone on the street, or get into someone’s car, they don’t have to spend the energy doing the mental calculus of deciding whether or not you’re safe at any given moment.

And what they don’t go is the amount of fucking energy it drains from you even when they are just politely saying hello.

Last guy that started speaking to me on the street, I think he got out 3 words like, “Hey, in the—” and I cut him off with “Hey, fuck off”. It was the end of the day, I was fucking sick of guys talking to me on the street, I was not going to do any polite silent-treatment.

I literally had this discussion with my boss last week wherein I had to explain what the male gaze is. Like he said “I’m a man I look” to which I replied “do you look at her as a woman or a human being in that context?”. Further trying to illustrate that women are not just “pretty things” for their pleasure.

Here’s a life tip for you because apparently you’re not getting it: Women DO NOT like being asked out by random strangers on the street. THAT’S why it’s considered harassment. Because at the end of the day, we don’t know what that random stranger’s intentions are, and that “innocuous” request for a date might be an…