#yesallwomen

So you have shitty friends who support and reinforce the patriarchal culture?

Honey. Sweetie. Babe.

Well, I’m sorry that you picked the wrong definition of the word “significant”, asshole.

I don’t have to do any of those thing. The mere accusation without any proof can and will have consequences for me. If your co-worker accuses you of stealing, he/she has to prove the allegation, with any forms of purported sexual harassment, that is no longere the case. HR will most likely go with the accuser, out of…

It’s very simple: Don’t make SEXIST (not “sexist,” as sexism is a real thing) jokes. Don’t comment on a woman’s looks, body, or imagined sex life. Don’t stare at her tits. Don’t touch her. Speak to her in a professional, polite, friendly manner JUST LIKE YOU’RE ABLE TO PULL OFF WHEN SPEAKING TO MEN.

Interesting comparison. In order to volunteer at my childrens school, it is required that all volunteers take training courses on avoiding and identifying inappropriate behavior and abuse, and creating a safe environment. The courses specifically state that one should never allow themselves to be alone with a child…

While I think your intentions are pure, I’m not sure you are considering the full scope of the “problem”. And I’m pretty sure you aren’t really terribly sympathetic to the “reporters”.

But it’s all her own fault she got addicted to pills.

I have done it lots of times. My current boss is based in another city. So is my previous boss (same organisation; my current boss now reports to my previous boss). On those rare occasions when I’m in the same city as either of them, we’ll usually have lunch or dinner together. I’m female, they’re both male and yet som…

Yeah, all this “but now how will I interact with women/minorities/gay people?” stuff is showing that there are a lot of people who know they’re sexist/racist/homophobic but always played dumb like they don’t know the obvious answer is to be decent to anyone not a white male. There’s a changing of the winds right now…

That is so weird. I work with a lot of men and honestly none of them have ever made me uncomfortable. Its easy to not get accused of sexual harassment if you don’t sexually harass people...

Because I included systemic racism and stereotyping, problems that tie to the issue of racial minorities in the statement. You’re reaching and I don’t mind answering your questions, but my answer is built right into what you’ve been quoting.

their privilege allows them to be lazy enough to not educate themselves

“What do we tell non-minority men to equip them to navigate this issue?”

That wasn’t my insinuation at all, that’s simply what you inferred. My point in that statement is that “normal” is an inferred average of whatever culture they come from and the prevalent cultures in debate here do suffer from some pretty serious issues with all of those things, making “normal” an untrustworthy metric.

I think the people cancelling these meetings (i) know they did something in the past that was over the line, (ii) harbor some unprofessional thoughts about the people they’re meeting with, (iii) know they don’t have an objectively clean record on dealing with women/minorities equitably or (iv) didn’t really like women…

My gut feeling is that many of these men are guilty of harassment themselves and are now panicking at the idea that they’re about to get busted.

Just like the scared college bros who are afraid to talk to girls because they could be labelled rapists! Men are the true victims here.

One investor, who spoke anonymously with the NYT, says that a “big chill came across Silicon Valley” as stories about sexual harassment and assault at tech companies became public. They claimed that people were now canceling networking meetings and even casual coffee dates with women and minorities, because there is…