Dear Sears,

Which might be an opportunity to acknowledge that this is a problem for both men AND women and we should be facing it together instead of having our own private pity pow-wows on opposite sides of the river.

Well said. I remember the article in question; it made me want to stay the hell away from this site. Actually, some of the comments from that article were what convinced me that Jez is a pretty cool place and that just because (some) of the authors/pieces are awful, there's still plenty of good.

In regards to male body issues, I think it's always important to acknowledge that men are just as unfairly represented as women in the media... but in drastically different ways. While they might not be pressured to be "skinny" in the same way we women are, not only is it unfair for someone to minimize the issue or…

This is one of the things equality gets you...

She could have meant pussy... as in a lazy cat that sits in the corner licking its paw and waiting for someone to come pet it... maybe? Probably not.

Well, I don't know about you, but my vagina is "open, engaged, [and] willing to take a risk." So there.

I must say that I'm not really sure how to "date harder." I'd rather "date smarter," if we're talking in cliches. Sometimes you do get exactly what you want when you're not looking for it. But you have to know when to grab hold and move forward. If you have your heart set on finding someone, then there are plenty of…

Uh, no. Let's not even go there. I thought this was going to be about how you have to take an active role in dating and make sure you don't make excuses for someone you're dating just because you like them. Then I read this clusterfuck of complete nonsense. What is *with* the "Just because you have a vagina doesn't…

I do not condone any sort of sexism/misogyny, but if you're going to get upset by one thing, use your own logic/rationale and apply it across the board...not just when/where it is convenient.

This has got to be one of the most sexist/close-minded pieces I've read on Jezebel. Getting beyond the "Just because you have a vagina doesn’t mean you need to act like one" bit (do I really need to point out how incredibly anti-woman that one is? I feel like I'm reading from Reddit.), the rest of this was just…

Um, no. You lost me at bullshit vagina-as-derogatory-word. Is this author's worked-up, yell-y style supposed to whip us into shape? Fuck off. Like most things in life, it's about balance. No, you will probably not meet anyone staying home every night and being unwilling to talk to people, but you also can't will…

There never was a two.

This article is...interesting...in that it doesn't make that much sense. Sometimes fate does just happen. I had happily resigned myself to a life of singledom when I randomly met Mr. Shinada. I was VERY happy being single, and then I met him, and we just knew we were meant to be together. I was not scared nor "fucking…

Shame-based tactics always work. I'm going to get me that boyfriend right now!

Dissing large populations of people and groups to get your point across is also the rallying cry of emotional pygmies. I essentially agree with this article, but I absolutely do not agree with the attitude or energy that's coming out of it. And personally, if any of my friends spoke about people who believe in fate…

I'm not going to say people shouldn't be active about getting romance in their life if that's something they feel like they're missing. By all means. Put yourself out their. Take risks. Don't wait for other people to come to you if you're interested.

“If it happens, it happens”

Apart from using "vagina" as a pejorative, this is remarkable for one big reason — it dismisses the common wisdom that "Things fall into place once you stop looking! The love of your life happens while you're making other plans! Just let it happen and stop thinking about it so much!"

If Fate flings something into your lap, somehow it was “meant to be”—and you like this for two reasons: One, because if the “universe” makes it right, then you can’t be wrong.