I was also a bit confused by it and a bit worried that I have been insulting people this whole time when I ask where their family is from. To me it is compliment when someone asks, as it shows they want to better understand me. That said I don't often get to rock out my whole mihi in te reo, mainly when I want to shut…

really? I'm 100% Indian (from India), but I'm extremely light skinned (I was positively Caucasian as a child) and I as an adult I have lightish brown skin which I'm CONSISTENTLY misjudged as one of the following: Mexican, South American, Greek, Sicilian, German, or simply "tanned northeast guy". I also have an Indian…

Yes mayontonilla - WHITE people fake being multiracial to get financial aid. My statement, however, was that MULTIRACIAL people do not fake being multiracial to get financial aid. That is categorically impossible. If you are multiracial, you cannot fake being multiracial for economic benefit. If you are white,…

I am a First Nations person who passes as white (both my parents are half and I got all the light-skinned genes, plus red hair from somewhere mysterious in the family tree). It is really awful to have total strangers demand proof of your ethnicity, or claim that you are lying and you can really only be "a tiny bit…

Have you been reading the threads about it being rude or even racist to ask people their ethnic backgrounds? I was finding it hard to get my head around. I thought it might just be because I'm white, but I wonder if it's an NZ thing - mihi include your genealogy so it's upfront. And also because we are such a nation…

Just wanted to say Kia Ora to add to the excitement. I am Ngati pakeha, but my husband's family has Ngapuhi ancestry - but it doesn't show in our children at all. I had hoped my children might be able to tolerate the sun like their dad, rather than just going red like me.

Evie Havok,

Atua. Kia ora .I am the pakeha mother of a Maori son. I am British, went to nz as a teen, had my son at 20. Unfortunately alone. We were in kohanga reo and the kura kaupapa, he grew up among his tangata whenua, and weirdly, compared to some of the kids who had two Maori parents,he was darker. I felt there was some…

"MUTTS?"

DID YOU REALLY JUST CALL US FUCKING DOGS?

My boyfriend and I are both hearty hybrid varietals of multiple racial extractions, though he presents as being totally Korean-American, and I look mostly like a honky with a good suntan. I can attest to the white female/Asian male combo being very much like a unicorn sighting, even in LA. At the same time, I can't…

My best friend (white) and her boyfriend (Korean) punch each other in the shoulder whenever they see another couple with a white woman and an Asian man because while you often see white men and Asian women, other is not as frequent. Going out with them is amusing when this rare unicorn is sighted. I don't think you're…