It's not just having to find new spots on the calendar; you could forfeit several thousand dollars in deposits, especially if you have to change a venue. Not to mention causing problems for any guests who plan ahead and have already booked plane tickets or accommodations.

Thanks! I feel kind of horrible about it, because she's got a lot going on in her life and mostly it's not going well, so I don't want to be piling on to that. And I don't want to turn into the evil bridezilla of "You didn't set aside the next 8 months to worship me? You're kicked out!"

I'm mostly hanging out in offbeatbride.com - they're usually pretty crazy-free, though.

I'm probably about to kick someone out of my wedding party later this week. I'm sad, because I really like her as a friend, she's going through some rough times right now, and I was a bridesmaid / witness at her wedding this past fall. That said, so far she's managed to:

If you have a correctly built septic system, the outflow pipe, tank and leech field will be below the frost line, and the water will drain out just fine during the winter. We can have the ground frozen for a month or two here, and my septic system works just fine. It needs to have solids pumped out every year or…

For areas where cold winters are normal . . . it really depends on how well the house is built, and how high your heat is. I've had no problems with temperatures down to -10 F outside, and never leave pipes dripping. I've also got a thick layer of insulation around the house, and none of my pipes run through…

Really? Wait for a professional to come out several hours later if you have any type of sewer backup? That sounds like a horrible idea to me. If you have anything which seems to be a sewer backup, then turn off the water in your house at the main / well pump; no point in contributing to the problem further. After…

My cat had several rounds of (effectively) pallative care. I still think that at some points, euthanasia is the best answer (without it, my cat would have slowly suffocated over several days).

For maximum cooling in the bedroom, put a fan blowing air out in a room *elsewhere* in the house, and a fan blowing cold air in in the bedroom. You want to set up a cross-draft, where you're pulling the cold air from the outside into & through the house rapidly. If you're really serious about this, you want to set…

Because it's not routinely offered by the vet's office without anesthesia, and I'm not going to have my cat undergo that without a good reason? It wasn't offered 19 years ago when my oldest cat was spayed; she finally got a chip at 16 when she had dental work done. Of the three other cats we have, one got a chip at…

Tell me about it; we've just started trying to plan one, and there are over 100 blood relatives who have to be invited (we're only going out to first cousins there). Then there are the family friends, then we'd like to invite some of our friends as well. Even if we just put up some tents in the backyard ($2000 for…

I don't know which women's bathrooms you've been in, but I would say that 99% of the ones which I have used have a space large enough to crawl through under the door, and gaps at the edges of the door and walls large enough to look through. I would *not* be comfortable with men wandering through. Most men would…

The Levi's I bought last year have both died already. Proper fit, washed in cold water, worn maybe twice a week, and the first pair lasted all of 8 months before a 5" split developed on the rear. The second pair made it another month before one of the belt loops tore, and I didn't bother to fix it because the fabric…

Sometimes they can't get a loan because they have no credit history, good or bad. I've been in that situation; my mother was kind enough to cosign the loan for my first car, which meant that I had a solid credit history when I went to get a mortgage for my house. She did the same thing for my sibling, and both of us…