Thank you for bringing up Clutch's discussion of this. The manner in which this narrative has been discussed in mainstream media is a classic example of when rape culture, misogyny and racism intersect to create a massive clusterfuck. When Lil Wayne made the same admission (he was 11 and the woman was 17/18 and a…

So true! That whole relationship could be used as a metaphor for women of color and our relationship with the feminist movement.

I felt it just a tad. I think the media frenzy definitely picked up a notch when the revelation was that not only did the President have a mistress but she was *gasp* black. I definitely had a mental flash to Blazing Saddles.

So true. Most days I can "brace" myself for the impact and power through. And then there are those other days...where I wonder where I will find the strength. A friend told me once that I live in a "rarified" space and I had to respond, "Rarified for whom?"

Rumor has it that Kerry Washington may be pregnant (see http://www.theybf.com/2013/10/04/mor…). Then again, she allegedly doesn't have a full time stylist....

Preach!!!! Joe Morton dropped some science when that line was uttered. I spent my entire life with that mantra rapped into my brain and on some level, I felt sad and validated all at once when that scene played out.

I totally agree! My husband and I looked at each other and both flashed back to our parents telling us the same. damn. thing.

Please! Dodai, please!

Beg Dodai to set something up? I mean we can't be the only people geeking out over the Scandal premiere and wanting to share our joy with like minded individuals in real-time, right??

I want in on this! I watch with the hubby but I could do without the eye rolls. Also, the Scandal Twitterverse is CRAZY!

Too cool. I completely agree with you — a meglomaniac in one context is a CEO in another (or perhaps a sitting US Congressman, depending upon your politics).

Too cool. I completely agree with you — a meglomaniac in one context is a CEO in another (or perhaps a sitting US Congressman, depending upon your politics).

Ha! So was I!

The total disregard of partner consent is totally wrong and, well, illegal. But I have to admit that I too agreed with the regular sex point (provided that the regular sex is CONSENSUAL). When Mr. ZoraJD are "getting it in" on the regular, we do feel more in sync and there are less fights. Oxytocin is a helluva drug!

Exactly! This works both ways too. I blame Mr. ZoraJD to get out of all the shit I don't want to do. The bedrock of any good marriage/partnership is making your spouse out to be the "heavy" when you really just want to stay home in your footie pajamas and chill! When we have kids, best believe the little ones will…

You know there are few fools out there just salivating to cart out whatever tired-ass representation of the Sapphire stereotype that is en vogue. We need to make a new Racism BINGO card.

Preach!!! I just don't understand why no one can seem to make this distinction. Has American society has so successfully "othered" Hispanics and Latinos that the "average" American cannot fathom any of the peoples of this group as White (See the Irish during the 1800s)? Or even worse, it is about separating these…

THIS!

I wore my hair natural for years and before it was en vogue. I started straightening it because I work in corporate American and well, it matters. I hate that I am putting my hairdresser's kid through college. I hate that I can't enjoy rainy days like I used to. I hate that I have spent a fortune on headbands and…

The Matt Damon episode was EPIC. I mean laugh out loud funny. The episode was in Season 2. Honestly, it was the brightest spot of Season 2....