This is so heartbreaking in so many ways. It reminds me what an absolute blessing the gift of sobriety is.

1. Fuck you

There’s a distinction between wanting your art to receive attention/appreciation and yourself to receive attention/appreciation. It’s cruel to insist that every person who wants their expression to be heard must also open up themselves, even against their own wishes. It’s not necessary.

No. Artists create art for people to enjoy. Beyond that they don’t owe people shit.

Bullshit.

I can attest to that! I met Bill on the campaign trail in 1992 and he held my baby. (!!!) My then husband said HE was charmed too—it’s not just us ladies. The charisma was off the charts.

Seeing Huma and Anthony interacting; he seems to love her, and he previously seemed very sorry he’d tanked his chances politically because he wanted to do a lot to help people.

It seems like dudes think women are turned on by them being “involved” with their kids/families. Tindr is chock full of profiles with galleries of mostly kid shots (sometimes the main photo!) or whole family shots including the wife, paired with underwear photos and “looking for something discrete (sic); not looking…

Public shaming is a hell of a kink.

She might actually love him, or just have a strong sense of loyalty.

Having watched his documentary less than a month ago, no, I’m not surprised. He’s a compulsive and angry egomaniac who doesn’t give a shit about his wife, her career or their son.

huma.

You guys are seriously not getting this! As a South Asian person who speaks Urdu, I disagree with the poster that “overdramatic” was simply a mistranslation or poor choice of words - he clearly meant he thought she was being overdramatic/overreacting (kinda the same thing?)

But Pakistan is a highly diverse society. The…

Thanks for offering a bit more explanation about the class/cultural context. He clearly screwed up, but is also acknowledging that screw-up pretty directly, which is more than many people would do in this situation.

It’s tragic that he didn’t take her concerns seriously, and I can understand that identifying her as…

For God’s sake there is no direct translation. Can you understand how people who do not speak English as a first language adopt English phrases and words and then use them in an incorrect way, when speaking English? Because here’s another one: In South Asia, a lot of little kids pose for pictures with their parents…

No, that’s not my point at all. Live in Pakistan for several months, interact with different levels of society, and have a conversation with Chaudry in Urdu about what he meant, and you will probably understand what my point is.

I’m sure you would apply the same logic to ‘hate crimes’. Why call them hate crimes when it’s just murder, plain and simple. It’s because it’s a specific type of crime committed for specific reasons, and tied to specific cultures and a specific religion.

There’s a bit of a translation issue here. In South Asia people always say ‘overdramatic’ in English, meaning something closer to ‘over reacting.’ And this sort of issue doesn’t usually effect people of the upper classes, I can see how some people would think she need not worry and that she wasn’t really under threat…

It might be because I’m somewhat tone deaf and regular deaf, and possibly because I don’t actually know the words to O Canada, but what was it they changed? I couldn’t pick up on it.

This is a TED talk from a woman who explains why she married her abuser.