MTE. I don't understand how so many people are willing to agree that you can consent to give up your right to consent. Unless the waiver 100% spelled out "you will be touched in a sexual manner by a random, half-naked stranger" then you never consented to that happening and you never even received adequate warning.…

Wait, this doctor equates the fear of being isolated from your friend, forced into a room and licked by almost naked strangers with being "very uptight about sex and sexuality"? This sounds like a woman who considers the Stanford Prison Experiment to be hot erotic fan fiction.

Yes, it is accurate. Surprise sexual attacks that a person has to prior warning of do not get exempt because it's an actor and they get a safeword that a person may or may NOT be in condition to use.

UNLESS you freeze up.

Dr. Kerr sounds like a sociopath.

No, it's like going to a fetish party, being told there will be sexual situations, and then being dragged into a private room by some half naked guy and groped, tied up without warning and have some EXTREME mindfuck play happen without prior knowledge [that cold blade thing? Edgeplay. In the same field as needles and…

My biggest issue with this is Kerr is suggesting that sexual assualt/rape is only violent. That if they're not cutting you or otherwise being physically aggressive it's not sexual assault. Which is wrong. Someone can grope me without a knife to my throat and it stills counts as sexual assault.

If I read "adult sexual content" on a release, I would assume: bewbs or simulated sex. I would not expect some rando to lick my neck or press up against me.

If I read that, I would have guessed the sexual content would be images or scenes acted out without my involvement. Never would I guess someone would lick my face or pin me to a wall in a manner that simulates sexual assault.

You have to take the bad with the good with Kanye. His mouth has no filter, but sometimes it's magic.

"a distorted view of masculinity,"

The people objecting KNOW what the definition of rape is but when it's actually applied, things are different. They view it very different.

The lovemewithoutmakeup test always happens before I commit to a relationship with someone.

i say that to myself all the time. i'm too old to fangirl all over the place, but when it comes to tom and benedict, i can't help it.

I'm with you (and I'm also an 80's nerd girl!) I thought he couldn't get any more attractive yet here we are.

I'd say the total opposite. I think the difference is that plenty of people, like myself, drink wine with no intention of getting drunk (like the taste, it goes well with steak, it's more romantic than Diet Coke), whereas I've never heard anyone smoke pot who didn't want to get high.

I visited my sister of the summer. That was my face the whole time I was there. I swear her boyfriend can't go 20 minutes without lighting up.