I guess there's a TINY BIT of comfort in knowing that my boyfriend is attracted to "real" looking girls, versus plastic porno babes (although I'm sure even the "real" ones are pretty contrived). Still, it's a shitty feeling and I don't know how to bring it up with him, or if I even have to.

Fair point. I'm not at all offended. I'm 20 years old and my boyfriend is in his late 20s.

Right. I watch it for the "action." But it hurts because I specifically know that when he does watch it he seeks out porn with hot, realistically pretty girls in it. Whereas I'd pretty much just watch any of the first few raunchy bangs that turns up.

I have mixed feelings about this. I like porn when I'm horny and my boyfriend's not home. So I'm not anti-porn. But in a double-standard twist, I feel hurt and jealous by the idea of my boyfriend looking at and getting off on the visual of some other woman having sex, especially some hot, slutty babe. I don't know…

In terms of morning makeup, other than concealer for occasional small spots, I only do three things. In total it takes less than 10 minutes:

Am I the only one that made the article photo their desktop wallpaper?

This has always worked for me - preface it with an email so they expect a talk when you come back into work and then clarify your direction in person.

I just read an advanced copy at work. It sounds like it was written by an 8-year-old. Also, I hope he gets hit by a bus.

I think not wanting to share at all is even more directly related to pride than the level of giving you offer.

The very first line of your original post is "I have a real issue with sharing the money I earn," and you actually disagree that this issue is about pride?

I'm not insinuating that you don't love your boyfriend. I am an extremely ambitious and frugal person, who loves her boyfriend. I agree with you in that I would never spend $4000, which is an insane amount of money, on a person unrelated to me, man or woman, boyfriend or otherwise. So I certainly don't think you…

How is it not about pride?

By the way, anyone posting a reply to your question is, by offering their perspective, trying to help you figure your shit out. Calling their responses "stupid" and asking them if they're smoking crack makes you sound like a juvenile ingrate.

Woosh - that went completely over your head.

Obviously, your boyfriend isn't entitled to a free vacation. However, if he died tomorrow, would you have wished you'd decided to take him?

Please, EL James, more misogynistic, puerile sludge in and around my mouth.