Alright, so I had a look through my stash of self-help (I may devour them.. kinda regularly) and one of the simpler, cutthroat style ones was the “Adult Children of Alcoholics” by JG Woltitz... the bullet list in the first chapter of the book slammed my head into going “Holy shit, it’s not me... it’s not me at all. I…

Can anyone fault your FWB for taking you up on good company, libations and squirrel heckling? :D I’m so glad you asked them over! Here’s to good times!

If anything, getting the crush out int he open will help you feel... secure. Like, that’s what a marriage is about. You are supposed to ideally talk to him (and he you) about anything. So, when you lift the secret off this crush, it makes it less intense.

You might be surprised about the open marriage thing. I would…

Lots and lots of online support, therapy with a focus on abusive relationships and family-of-origin issues, and many self-help books. I’m way better now than I was 10 years ago. It’s like night and day.

Are they your main source of good-times? Are they usually up for whatever, whenever? Just ask them “Hey, you got any space for another meetup this week?” and see what happens with that. It doesn’t make you thirsty, it just makes you real about what you need at this moment. If they aren’t available... maybe you can…

It’s most likely not going to end well. Not to be a debbie downer, but it’s just statistically when the wife steps out on the husband for fun times with another man, it’s because she’s disconnected emotionally and wants out.

So... I would caution against this is but for the fact that it’s going to end badly, you may…

I second the take your time, regard him with quiet observant eye of caution, and try to enjoy these nice gestures he is doing for you. Always trust your gut (that gut that spoke to you in previous relationships that went down south) and by all means, if something feels squicky and you need support - I hope you’ll…

A song that makes me feel old and young all at once. <3

I got through periods of dealing with the feelings you’re having in regards to being the spectator/cool spinster to everyone’s joy - you know what? I am daily reminded by those very people why I am SO lucky not to be tied down. They don’t even seem to enjoy the joys I vicariously live through them whereas my joys are…

You are a good boyfriend. You’re chasing your career, which is to be respected. You have to put your oxygen mask on first, you know? So, relocate to where your job is and then see what’s doable in your relationship. Hopefully, she’s a supportive girlfriend who will understand this is a good choice for you at this…

You have 2 days off in which to do anything you want to do! Make these two days all about you. Wherever you want to go, eat, see, take photos of, read... I’m serious, have a love-in for yourself! It’s sucks that your friends were cancelling last second on you, but when they ask you what you did you can be all “I had a…

Are you me? You’re me. :) Um - strange as it sounds but awkward is endearing to people. Just when you think you’ve Ronald McDonalded your foot into your mouth, things turn out okay.

Regarding your coworker... give your gut a pat. There’s a chance it’s giving you a heads-up and preemptively guarding you against…

Totally understand this. I get looked at like a serial killer because I don’t want kids. My dates have given me judgey “What’s wrong with you” stares and then said that age-old annoyance of “You’ll change your mind.”

I’m dumb enough to still have sex with them, I make sure I have 3 forms of birth control within access…

I’m in HTown but with all the consolidations going on, oldtimers are unfortunately getting laid off and fresh cheaper blood hired in, especially at the smaller outfits. Also, looking up toward anyone willing to go offshore or out near the piney woods or hill country and more city/county govt’s are interested in hiring…

I would have loved to have talked to that guy about how In-n-Out gets pretty good reviews on paying better wages than other fast food places, how they do tend to promote from within, and that it’s not the end of the world to work some minimum wage at 23 (even with a degree) so you can gain perspective when you’re…

That sperm donor needs to pay child support. Did you petition for support and he’s remained jobless? That he gets visitation and doesn’t pay a dime really smacks as jacked up to me...

Your ex is a fuckhead. I want to do many mean things to him for ever belittling you, raping you, gaslighting you, abusing you,…

I actually had a similar convo with my folks regarding the $20 deal and violence on POC via the police and the racist shit they kept saying made my stomach turn until I finally said “If you feel like that, I’m ashamed of you.”. It is 2015, they have been alive 70 years, they watched integration happen... they know…

Any chance there is a service in your area specifically to help people with injuries get to doctor’s appointments? I can’t think of the name of the ones in my big city but usually they advertise alongside senior care type things online... it’s a thought. Could be cheaper than a taxi ride?

Next Saturday is now forever known as Princess Fluffy Hair’s Day O’ Freedom. Take that day back for you! While you have this weekend free of the youngin’s, sulk as much as you want, brood, be however you wanna feel, and relish your F-R-E-E-D-O-M.

Hooray! :D