Vox had an article yesterday entitled “The rape culture of the 1980s, explained by Sixteen Candles” (https://www.vox.com/platform/amp/culture/2018/9/27/17906644/sixteen-candles-rape-culture-1980s-brett-kavanaugh) that made me realize something: So many folks have not bothered to update their understandings of sexual…

I, too, found myself laughing this week. Not because anything was funny, but because it was so far from funny. “Laugh to keep from crying” is the hoariest cliché imaginable; the phrase is so threadbare that it fails to convey that it feels like claws raking the inside of my throat. Without ever having raised my voice,…

Men’s laughter admits them into the boys club of power. Women’s laughter gets them violated and killed.

I’m lucky to have a very supportive workplace but I’m so utterly distracted and emotionally all over the place this week. I can’t imagine having to work at a place where it’s that toxic and be dealing with all this at the same time. I’m so sorry.

Yesterday, I was sobbing at my desk over the absolutely toxic work culture in my office and repeatedly telling co-workers “I’m fine.” It was obvious it’s not fine. It’s also something you can’t talk about so it needs to be fine. There’s no other choice but to go on in silent agony. 

Sometimes I think I’m saying, “it’s fine” to convince myself, as well. Like if I say it out loud enough times it really will be fine. Unfortunately this has been a coping mechanism I’ve felt the need to use far too many times. I usually feel the need to be overly accommodating or to reassure others when I’m the one…

Oh my god.

This is so fucking hard.  I have family members who not only still approve of Kavanaugh getting the SC seat, but think that Ford is a paid actor.  The willful ignorance runs deep when you’re in a deeply red state.  It’s exhausting.  I cannot even begin to fathom how Ford feels.

God, THIS. Its such a common phrase in my vocabulary. And I hate myself for it.

Truth. I and the women in my life routinely use “it’s fine” as a phrase that means “it’s absolutely not fine, but it’s not worth the drama that the truth will bring up.”

It’s similar to his insistence that Xi likes him, Abe likes him, etc. His whole view of world leaders is similar to a kindergartner telling Mommy about his classmates.

What is most hilarious about that tweet is that the day before Rouhani said “there is no such program for a meeting”. The Iranians have never requested a meeting, but despite them not asking, Trump has no plans to meet Rouhani.

Didn’t assault anyone. #sad

One to watch...

He had the unmitigated gall to be nominated by the black guy.

and there it is....

Of course they are chickenshit.

Nobody is sure if Kavanaugh was an incel or rapist, but we are sure he is a lifelong liar.

His name is Slimane, pron0unced “sleh-MAHN” because it is French.

bold assertion considering Jared Kushner exists