No, we LOVE England because of that.

I wore a bikini for the first time in my adult life

That thing should be flown over the White House every day until the Cheeto in Chief is gone.

Oh, I thought we liked England because of this.

This is 100% my feeling.  I love my friends’ kids.  I like being around them and being supportive.  No desire to have my own.

This is brilliant idea

We have a group of women who do this in my town. They are a bunch of single moms who got together, got a house, and watch each others kids while the other one works. They have been doing it for awhile now, and I think it really works for them.

This would be radical and beautiful. Transform the notion of family.

Exactly. Poly-parenting? 

I’m so about alternate family situations.

“Utah”

What if women who wanted kids started matching and entering into civil partnerships with other women who want kids (straight women too?) And joining single mom/civil mom co-ops? I mean . . . don’t we already do this de facto? So many husbands/dads out there only have minimal involvement by his choice. What if we just…

Maybe part of the answer is to “bank” a healthy number of female friends and fellow single moms to help each other.

Agree that it needs to be OK for women to be childfree if they wish (said as someone who had her first child at 23). That baby girl is now 26 and in a long-term relationship, with 18 months to go in a university course. It’s a very in-demand profession (especially as she’d prefer to work in a rural area), so she’s…

this, times a million. two parents is way overrated. sure you get two sets of hands, but you also have to deal with an unstable dyad of decisionmaking with a high likelihood of deadlocked votes. that plus the emotional labor costs of maintaining the relationship can outweigh the value of two sets of hands

That was my reasoning as well. It’s like I went through puberty and heard the biological clock start ticking right away. I could be happy even if I only met Mr.Right in the retirement home because I wanted to experience that but not with the intensity that I wanted to be a mother.
If I didn’t have kids, well, there’s…

This is lovely. Thanks for sharing. I’m almost 30 and considering having kids on my own. I have yet to find one person who would have been a stable father and partner so fuck it. I feel like getting knocked up alone will put some of the pressure off to find a good man. If it happens down the line, amazing, and if not,…

Honestly, there are days I think I’d be better off as a single mom. I have a two year old, and my husband is a nervous wreck of a father, he thinks there is a “perfect” way to parent and that we’re failing (note, my son is a perfectly happy and healthy, normal 2 year old who is ahead on most developmental charts.…

I’m sure I’m gonna catch heat for this, but I honestly think part of the problem is that society still views women without children as incomplete failures. It needs to be more okay for women to just not have them.

Uh, all of the above.:-)