It's not about you. It's not for you. Your opinion on the topic is irrelevant. Some of us *do* want to see dudes making out on TV. For once, its about us.

BECAUSE this is America you are absolutely wrong. Just as his viewpoint is criticizing someone else's life (or, dare I say it, viewpoint), then as Americans we are free to criticize him too.

I think the most reasonable response is to have no strong feelings one way or the other. (Why you assumed I'm forcing you to be excited about something is odd...although it's quite an easy strawman to knock down...)
By going out of your way to say something against it, you've expressed much more than mild feelings…

The other part of the problem is that BMI is SUCH a sack of shit.

I rather not read asshole comments...but sometimes they just show up on my screen. And then I remind myself an asshole is just a person, too. And there's no reason for me to be so mad. I'm mean he was born an asshole. There's nothing he can do about it...oh wait, assholes can stop being assholes.
Fuck you.

Well that's just awesome. Thank you SOOOOO much! I'm going to nominate you for an award!!!!!

Very interesting. Glad she grew out of her initial views.

So, in her view, even if the idea of being tied up and humiliated by a man gets you off, you still shouldn't do it/admit to it, because every time a woman tells a man that they like being dominated it adds more support to the men who think all women like that, and who find victimizing women fun. Basically she would…

-_- I literally wrote a comment saying that there are different viewpoints in feminism and we should be respectful and you responded in the exact opposite way without any critical thought or argumentative skills. Good job.

Okay, this is going to sound rude but fuck it - bell hooks is an extremely accomplished and intelligent scholar who has written numerous books on racism and sexism and social issues, she is very well known amongst feminists. If you've never heard of her before, well...that's on you.

All I have to say is if bell hooks made any criticism of me publicly, I would be honored. Even if I don't agree with her, I would totally geek out that she was commenting on me.

I am glad that you did not dismiss hooks and her viewpoint (like the Gawker article did).

I don't see it as trying to limit agency, but trying to contextualize the space their agency is operating in. (Kind of like being against the war but not hating the troops- you still have to put what the troops do into context, and that makes many troops feel like you hate them, even if you just don't like what they…

She is a business

Aw, thanks. Feel better. :)

Yes, you were wrong. I said nothing whatsoever to imply that I "really believe that any one group is a monolith." In my very first comment, I said that I was friends with individual women, and I am a woman and have been one a long-ass time, so I don't need anyone to tell me that "Women come in many kinds." I am aware.

There are also guys who avoid male friendships and are a different brand of creepy. Nice Guys vs. humorless misogynists, I guess. Usually there is something up with anyone who purposefully excludes one gender from friendships.

I was with her on that first part of "I don't trust a girl who doesn't have any girlfriends. I have really close girlfriends", but then she had to go one to say "but they are guys like me—girls who eat and don't know anything about fashion." And it really rubbed me the wrong way. It was a very "I'm friends with…

Ugh indeed. I was about to go full circle and love her for that statement because I usually take it to mean you have no patience for those "I'm not like other girls"/"I prefer to spend time with guys because girls are so catty and only care about girly things" girls.

I don't trust any guy who isn't on friendly terms with at least one ex (assuming he has more than one ex).