I've come to the conclusion that the best advisors are also the worst ones at those "little things". They hold paper revisions forever, they forget things, like telling you they're going to be out of town when you have a standing meeting (Our biggest success as a group was getting him to set up a group calendar, so…

My grad advisor was nothing short of amazing. We actually had two women in the group (unheard of!), and there's two again now this year with the new postdoc and my best friend from grad school who should graduate in a year.

LOL, I know, right? My friend asked the guy, after the talk, exactly what he meant by that. How does one do physics like a man? And again, with zero irony:

Oh man, Jackson. That's enough to drive me to drink right there.

Tiny bottles of coconut rum in the gas station cherry Pepsi — got me through studying for my qualifier.

Or not. Depends on the family situation.

We should start a side business selling lab desks with little wine fridges in them for days like this.

Maybe that's it. But ugh.

That would be so very nice. Not even just for the gender aspect, but for the stupid referees with axes to grind against certain people/research groups.

Oh I get plenty of shudders and "I hated that class" too. I have better luck if I call myself a "Nanoscientist" (close enough)

Thank you *takes it under the desk*

I must be living in hell then. Because where I'm at — relatively fresh out of grad school, it's still a sausage-fest. Or it just physics that's still ass-backwards?

They do have a real-live physicist over there though. Which makes me absurdly happy.

Bunny! Thank you! :D

I think that's true to some extent. But the statistics aren't a pretty where I sit (3 years out of grad school and working at an undergraduate institution).

And I'd like to pee standing up. So what?

It's almost as if men and women are judged by completely different standards.

Sounds about right. At the undergrad institution I work at, we're not graduating any female physics majors this year. Or next, I think. We had one last year - and she wasn't going to grad school.

Men: having both children and careers for hundreds of years. They don't have to make that "CHOICE"

Part of me hopes you never find it. Part of me wants to see it so I can have my cry over it and be done.