Exactly. They phrase these questions in a way that suggests some random variable of outside force just suddenly occurred to make something ‘terrible’ happen. Like a fucking comet.

It’s technically voluntary in the same way that anyone in an abusive relationship or abusive culture or abusive cult is in it ‘voluntarily’

I feel bad for anyone who was born and raised in that mindset, even if i despise what they stand for, for most of them their destiny was kinda written since birth.